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I don't want to sound like a total freak out, but he sees her at least 4 times a week to exchange clothes/toys. We are in our early twenties and live together. They text all the time, and I've gotten to a point where I am just really uncomfortable with the whole thing, and he knows that. He says I have to accept that he has a child with her. I understand that she will always be in his life because of that, but in a way I feel like a home wrecker just by being with him. I feel like the other woman, when I haven't done anything wrong. I am having second thoughts. Maybe he should try and work things out with her for the sake of the child. Is what I'm feeling normal?
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No, I didn't answer your question but I aalso told you if you can't handle it then you need to tell him. The way your thinking is selfish, To not want the mother of the child around is and will put pressure on the father. I can understand not wanting her to be involved in your lives constantly yes, but she will be present from time to time. Perhaps you need to tell him you feel he is in conract with her a bit too much and you feel like your being put on the back burner. If he is not willing to one down his contact and put more focus into you then this relationship isn't for you to begin with.
Now sorry for the misunderstanding on my last answer.
Your actions are extremely selfish
His child will and should always come first, He is a father. As the mother of his child yes, she will always be in the picture.
Basically this guy is a package deal, you except him, his child and the fact that this other woman has a child with him or you do not except him at all.
If you decide to do the mature thing and realize that he is a parent who should be on mutual terms with the mother then you also need to except as his partner you will have co-responsibility to his child if you were to end up married.
So if you feel you truly can't handle the mother being around then be honest with him. However, staying around being selfish about it IS beibg a home wrecker indeed
(Rating: 3) I haven't taken any actions at all yet to be considered selfish actually... I am wonderfully happy toward him and especially his child. I jumped into the relationship knowing what I was getting into. I did not know that I would be dealing with him seeing the Mother more than he sees his own two feet, and I am not quite sure if I am comfortable with him texting his ex who he claims to hate more than anything else almost every day. Thanks for your interesting opinion, but you did not really answer my question.