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18/f. I've stumbled upon somebody talking about guy and girl friendships. I read it and I disagree, due to personal experience, of course. I have two best guy friends. I hang out with the one more than the other but I can talk to the other about everything. I'm told all the time that I will wind up dating one of them. Some say that about the first guy, some say that about the second guy but everybody and I mean EVERYBODY thinks that I will date at least one of my guy best friends.
Anyway, the saying is "A guy and a girl can be just friends, but at one point, they will fall for each other.. maybe temporarily, maybe at the wrong time, maybe to late or maybe forever."
The gist of this is basically: what do you think about this saying? Can guys and girls be just friends? Why? Why not? (link)
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Many of my best friends are girls. Weirdly, they became my friends because I was once attracted to them, and wanted to pursue something 'romantic'. Then, once we got talking and got to know each other, we just became really good friends.
I too had the whole "are you two going out?" and "you two will get married to each other by 30, I'm sure of it" thing.
But I think guys and girls can be friends without there being anything there. I cannot possibly ever imagine being anything more than friends with one of my female friends. Not anymore, anyway. There's no particular reason - she's attractive, and is generally a nice person. It would just be odd though.
Sometimes it's easy for people to say things like "they can't be just friends" if they've never been in such a relationship, or if they've never experienced something like that. But once you've been in that situation, you can see why it is possible.
So in conclusion, I think men and women/boys and girls, can be friends with one another without romantic feelings taking over at any point. Maybe romantic feelings will be the reason why they are friends in the first place, but can you really count that? Because it was before they became friends.
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