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Okay, I know this is way stupid, but long story short, I have a bunch of aunts, cousins, and friends who expected me to get married before my older sister Anna after a four year long relationship of hers ended. I have to admit that I wanted the same thing mainly because I get SICK of my parents only talking about Anna's wedding and my dad telling people how hard it was going to be to give Anna away. Last summer I told these other relatives that I was getting married, but didn't know when and some told me that wanted it to be before Anna did so my parents would have to talk about my wedding for a change. About a year ago Anna started dating a guy named Matthew who she believes is going to propose to her around Christmas, which is surely before my boyfriend and I will be ready. I thought I would have been bummed out if she got married before me, but I'm not. I love Matthew and he is the first decent boyfriend of my sister's that I feel is a good match for her. I hated the last guy she had a long term relationship with and thought she was going to marry and I'm super happy for her for finding a new, good guy who she loves and wants to start a life with. I'm excited for her to get married and even though a little part of me wishes I would have been first, the bigger part is glad that the pressure is off of me and I can get married when I'm ready now. The thing is, I know my family well enough to know that they'll try to pile the pressure on me more than ever know and I don't know if I can take it. I've been suffering from anxiety lately and can't take any more stess in my life. What can I tell my family? (link)
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You need to tell your family the truth. Families and weddings shouldn't be bound by politics of who is first and the such. They are about love.
If you rush into a marriage, it will never last. Like what if you sister rushed in with that jerk? They they would have been in a messy marriage with even messier divorces, etc.
Explain that you will get married when you are ready, and the stress doesn't help, but hinders the situation.
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Thanks, I really appreciate it and you are totally right. I would have hated it if my sister married that jerk and would never want to be in that kind of situation. I will take your advice and tell my family I can't rush into anything.
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