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My boyfriend (m/25) and I (f/24) have been together for five years. I truly believe he's the one. We have stated to one another that we are soulmates. Well we have recently started unprotected sex and I'm not on birth control. I realize its risky and we should be a lot more careful.
However he called me the other day and told me he bought plan b in case just for next time. He asked if it would offend me...I don't see how it would. However I question it now and it kinda of bothers me. I feel if he loves like he says he does than wouldn't we be engaged and wouldn't he want to have kids with me?? I guess I'm confused. Mind you I'm not ready for kids...idk :/ any ideas or advice? (link)
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Why would you be offended if he wanted to use protection?
You may love each other. You may want to be with each other for the rest of your lives. But that doesn't mean you should have kids right *now*. That's irresponsible.
He just wants to be careful. The last thing you want is a herd of children running around at the age of 24 and 25. The key is to carry on getting to know one another, living together, enjoying each other, and then when you feel you are ready for children, then you start to have unprotected sex.
And it should of course be after marriage. I say this, not because I am religious (I am not), or I believe that pre-marital sex is bad (I do not), but because marriage is the ultimate commitment. Legally, and socially that is. To have children before marriage is saying "I am not really that committed to this person, but I am going to have a child with them, regardless. Even though the child will bind us together for the next 18-21 years".
But yes, to use protection is very sensible, and respectable. You should not be offended, but appreciate that you are with someone who possesses common sense.
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Rating: 3
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I appreciate your advice but I don't feel like it was necessary to be attacked. Thank you!
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