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I took an at home pregnancy test 3 days ago, and it was positive. I instantly began crying, and have rarely stopped. I am 21, and my husband of 1.5 months is 23. I am in my senior year of college, and my husband just joined the army, and we just moved to our first duty station. I cannot stop crying, because I have always wanted to have a career before having kids. It was my dream as a child to be a pilot, and in September I decided I wanted to join the Army to achieve my dreams. But having a kid right now pretty much ruins my chances, and there is no other plausible way for me to become a pilot.
I started to talk to my husband about possibly having an abortion, and he said he would support me in whatever decision I came to, but he also said he would probably view me differently. I know that having an abortion is the right decision for me; it is only when I think about it, that I stop crying. But the thought of my husband viewing me differently, and possibly growing to resent me, that makes this decision extremely hard for me. And it is not just giving up on my dreams that haunts me, I also feel that having a baby now isn't what is best for me, and I know if I keep it, I will grow to resent my husband for having the career of his choice.
I am looking for advice, support, or thoughts of who I should talk to in order to figure out the best course of action. (link)
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Its your right- as a woman- to choose. If you feel abortion to be the best option, then do it. I personally am pro-choice. Its not fair for your husband to say he will see you differently. Is he harbouring the foetus?
Many people think it's easy for a woman to abort a foetus, but it obviously isn't. Its usually the last resort after thinking about it. You say having a baby right now isn't best for you, so why do it? It may be okay for your husband as he won't be giving birth, and will be away a lot of the time. He will still do his job. You will have to spend all your time, and attention on this child.
If having a child isn't right for you right now, do the right thing by you. Its also unfair to have a child if you feel you are unready (for the child). Your husband should really support you through this, and understand your situation. It sounds like you have some talking to do with him. Explain how you feel.
Good luck, and I hope you make the right decision for you :)
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I know you mean well but you are so wrong about so much. It IS easy for a woman to have an abortion i don't care about the baby. I want it dead. for a woman it is just like squashing a bug. while you get someone else to do it for you it doesn't mean anything to you except relief that the bug isn't leeched on you any more.
I know why my husband is upset. i told him i wanted kids and i went off birth control so i could get pregnant but now that i am pregnant i changed my mind and want the little fucker dead. I don't know what i was thinking in the first place. The ONLY thing you were right about was that he should support me in this. Sure I lied to him the whole 4 years we were dating and told him that i wanted to have kids as soon as we got married and i kinda trapped him into marriage with this baby thing but now that he married me I don't need the baby any more so i want my future back. What is he so mad about? How fucking dare he judge me or look at me different? Sorry i am a little drunk but i had to say what yuor answer made me feel.
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