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Hey Im 16 and a senior in highschool. I met this guy in an interschool competition. He's the same age but is a senior in some other school. We started talking after the competition and became good friends. We have gone out on three dates till now. And yeah, we have kissed each other and made out a little. We cannot resist each other at all. And hence the makeouts were a mutual desicion. I am falling for him. But the problem is that even though he says he is falling for me, he keeps on telling me he cannot date me cause he's a bad guy and he cares for me too too much to hurt me. He says he is not one of those dateable guys who will love their girl completely and he might find a new girl and dump me.That would hurt me and he doesnt want to do that! He hasnt had a past record of cheating or anything it's just that he tells me he wants to be sure before he asks a girl out that he will be completely loyal to her and not flirt around with other girls. He also liked this girl a year back and he says he feels guilty that he got over her and fell for me! But when we meet we actually act like we are dating, cause he gets me stuff, he tells me he loves me, we hold hands. we actually act like a couple in love. we also talk all the time. I dont know what to do. Because I really want to be with him. But cant figure out how to make him ask me out? and if he is really a bad guy? HELP.

I'm not the best person to seek relationship advice from because my negative and jaded point of view on the subject didn't just materialize out of nowhere. My perspective is extremely biased -- if not tainted -- but ye asked and ye shall receive;

I don't know if he's a bad guy on a personal level, but he's definitely a bad guy for you. Continuing on with the relationship in its current form will do nothing but destroy you. He's laid out his intentions and desires, and none of those include being in an actual romantic relationship with you. I know right now it feels like what you have is enough to survive on, but human beings are like a drug; you will need more than what you're getting, and he is unable or unwilling to supply it.

My advice is to stop things before they progress any further. It will be unpleasant, but its better to experience pain that is just slight discomfort when compared to the devastation you'll experience down the road if this progresses.

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