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I dont know what to do. Im only 14 and ive been in a relationship with this boy for a year, on and off now, and he's been talking about us having a child. Ive been really thinking about this and I really feel like Im ready for something like this. I know its not exactly a walk in the park bringing up a child and that it isnt something i can just forget about if i get fed up of the responsibilities. I do want to have a child with him now but honestly im not sure if I should. I saw what you said to some girls question and just thought youd be able to help. Please reply, Im not sure who else to ask.
Thanks:) x
Speaking as someone who's sister got pregnant at 15, I'm going to have to agree with the other answers you have received. This is an absolutely terrible idea.
My sister got pregnant quite deliberately. She thought it was what she wanted and that she'd be a great mother and have someone to love and everything would be great. She also thought her and the father of her baby would be together forever and it'd be one big perfect happy ever after.
Did it work out that way? Of course not.
My nephew is now 14 months old and being brought up by my parents, who having already raised two children of their own aren't exactly thrilled at the prospect of spending the next 17 or so years raising another one. Babydaddy was out of the picture by the time my sister was 6 months pregnant and has barely been heard from since. And my sister? She didn't finish school, has no qualifications, no job and spends most of her time at her new boyfriend's house, doing absolutely nothing.
At 14 you have absolutely no perception of the real world. At 14 you can't even get a job much better than a paper round, let alone one that's going to provide for you and your child. Who's going to look after your baby while you work or study? How do you think you're going to be able to afford all the things a baby needs? Do you know the average cost of a baby's FIRST YEAR is? Almost $10,000!
Let's think of it another way. Do you honestly think, that in 7 years time when you are 21 and all your friends are out partying, you won't regret the fact that you have to stay home and look after your 7-year-old?
I think you know this a completely unrealistic idea.
Wait until you are in a situation where you can support yourself and a child. That means having a job, or having a partner who has a high enough paying job that he/she can support all of you.
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THANK YOU! You helped save me from the WORST decision of my life! He was 18 and getting with 4 other girls I know of. He said he would only love ME forever but he was trying to get all of us pregnant at the same time. He got two girls pregnant so far that I heard of and one girl has TWO babies by him! This is the second guy I dated that wanted me to have his baby and the second guy who was busy with a whole bunch of other girls at the same time! LAST BLACK GUY I DATE EVER!
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