My girlfriend is addicted to vicaden and three weeks ago, I found out from my bank statement that she stole almost $900 dollars from my ATM card. I confronted her and she told me she wasn't going to tell me if i never found out. She is feeling guilty and very sorry. She has secret texts, phone calls and acts strange when I ask her what she did for the day. She is always yelling at me and picking fights, when she is wrong and I bring it up. I have always felt that she is hiding somthing but I could never figure it out. I try to meet her needs as much as I can, but I am a graduate student and I do the best I can but she is unsastified. I found out this week that she stole 65 dollars from me and told me she forget to bring it up and when I asked about it on Friday, she wanted to break up, the second time she wanted to break up over me giving her money or she taking it without my permission. I feel like I am her golden ticket and she is just hanging on for herself. She has kids and I get along with them. Our sex life is unsatisfactory and she always complain when she intiates it and i go for it. I feel that she loves me and I love her too, but I am confused on what to do. I tried working things out but its like she is always picking fights and acting like a "clutz", her way of calling the stolen money, the lies and disrespect. She says her mom put gas in the car when she used my car to do so. The trust is not there and everytime I am at work, I wonder what she be doing. Any help or advice would be helpful. I am 24 male and my girl is 30 female.
You haven't mentioned one good thing about the relationship other than that you love each other and you have a good rapport with her kids.
You need to work out whether those things alone are worth the lying, stealing and craziness from your girlfriend.
As far as I'm concerned, this woman needs help to deal with her demons, something she may not be able to do while she is in a relationship. Consider a trial separation, where you both agree to start dealing with your problems separately before deciding whether or not you want to continue with the relationship. Unless your girlfriend gets help, I highly doubt this relationship will last.
Additionally, consider this: if a stranger stole $965 dollars from you then you would call the police. Are you really willing to accept that from someone you are in a relationship with?
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Thanks, I know what I got to do, I have been praying and talking but God has already given me the answer, I must leave before it gets worst. Thanks
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