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All of a sudden my friends are like desperate for guys and hanging out with these gross guys. Were all 18, and they're like 20-25. They aren't in college. Their like drug dealers and just basically ghetto losers. I'm repulsed by them and I can't stand when they want to go to one of their parties. The whole time I'm worried im going to get shot, they all think I'm the hottest and constantly want to hook up with me, but I refuse too and they don't really like me because I won't drink or smoke. But obviously I'm not going to put anything in my body that they have possession of. My friends are acting like whores and they'll probably end up with stds and it's ruining our friendship because I never want to hang out with them anymore because of this.
What do I do?
Unfortunately it's not your place to tell your friends who they can and can't hang out with or date. They're adults and it is up to them who they spend time with.
But it IS your place to not do something you don't want to do. You don't have to drink, smoke or go to their parties if you don't want to.
You can let them know that you don't like their new friends and don't want to spend time with them but you run the risk of offending them and spoiling your friendship.
Alternatively, why not try and arrange things with your friends that don't involve these guys? A girly night in, a meal out, a bowling night, road trip, beach day etc are all good ideas. You could say something like "Hey, we haven't spent much time just us girls recently, why don't we go to/do [insert activity]?"
If it's a lost cause and you really don't want to spend time with them or these guys anymore then it's time to make some new friends. Make an effort to spend more time with other friends you have, join school/college clubs/societies etc and try and meet some new people. I know it's easier said than done but there's no point hanging out with people when you're not having fun and you don't approve of or like what they're doing.
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Yeah, I know I can't control their decisions but I'm just afraid they're going to get hurt ex: shot. Haha.. Bur my one friend doesn't like to go there anymore, and I still haven't mentioned that I'm against it so now they are just annoyed with her but now we're not going there to much anymore lol and I met a guy and we've been hanging out with his friends so
it's better now :)
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