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My boyfriend is SOOO overprotective. Some background stuff: he's seventeen and he used to live in chicago where he did a lot of bad stuff; alcohol, pot, gangs/fights. But when he moved here we started dating and have been for almost a year (11 months). When we first started hanging out (before we were official) he knew I didn't like smokers so he stopped that. He never liked being in a gang in the first place so he's not into those anymore. And drinking, well, we both party so its not a big deal. The problem in, he's gotten in about four bad fights sinces I've known him. He just get's SO jealous. One of the times he was legitimately protecting me, but the other three have been caused by random stupid guys which yes were pigs but never actually did any harm. Ya know, they'd talk shit about him and hit on me and try to piss him off that way... once they figured out that its a soft spot for him they tend to carry on with that. It's just stupid. I know he thinks he's "protecting me" but it really bothers me. I think he's about to get into another fight cause some guy has been telling him he's gonna... do things with me. Haha I don't wanna get into details cause it gets a little graphic but the point is my boyfriend and I BOTH know that this kid will never do any of this to me, he just knows that's what gets to him. My bf see's it as "defending my honor" but I see it as STUPID but he says I don't get it... Yeah he was right once out of the four times but I'm scared for him. He can't keep doing this. I love him so much... I just don't wanna see him get hurt over something so stupid but he just doesn't see it like I do... Please help! What can I say to him to get him to understand?? (I'm a sophomore, he's a junior; high school)

I don't see the problem.

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(Rating: 5) You're lucky I think you're funny. Completely not helpful though.

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