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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
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So my boyfriend came over a week ago and we talked for about 3 hours...at first I was upset with him because I felt like we were growing apart and fighting a lot more about stupid things and he didn't want to talk to me and fix things. After a lot of tears, he finally broke through and told me how he felt. After that everything just flooded out from both of us and we made a huge 'break through' in our relationship. We both decided that even though we're in love, in the long run we probably weren't going to last. But I asked him if we were still going to try and he said yes of course...sooo we're still going out and things have been going better then ever since then but I was just wondering if this will be good for me. I love him and I love hanging out with him, but should I keep being with him if our personalities clash? We haven't gotten into any fights lately, but I'm sure we will eventually start again...I mean, yeah we fight a lot but the good times ALWAYS make up for the bad times...So what do you all think? Should I run this thing into the ground? Or might we actually have a chance? Any advice is good, thank you all so much.
Your relationships sounds a lot like mine. I've been in love with my boyfriend since I was 14 and we dated freshman year then got back together our senior year, broke up over summer, and now are back together. Overall, we've been together for over a year. Now, I might be biased because of this, but I'm going to try to help you out anyways. I've been in your position many times and have debated ending things with my boyfriend many times. I even did once, but I was miserable and we got back together.
My advice? If you love him and enjoy being with him, why give it up? Don't count him out. Don't expect that just because you hit a rough patch now means that you aren't meant to be together. People fight, it's completely normal. Especially when you love someone and are so close with someone. My boyfriend and I clash all the time, even over the dumbest and most minuscule things, but it doesn't mean we aren't happy and just because your personality clashes with your boyfriend's means you can't work out.
Maybe you won't end up together in the long run, but if there's one thing my boyfriend himself has taught me, it's to live in the now. Enjoy your time with him now and don't worry about the future. Like my boyfriend always says, "what's meant to be will always find it's way." Every experience in life teaches you something, and this relationship has been and will continue to be a great experience for the both of you, regardless of the long run outcome.
I hope this helps and I wish the two of you the best!
-Laura (18-f)
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much!