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Well i've been with my boyfriend for four years, and i'm one of those girls who no matter how many times i hear that porn is okay i can't get it through my head and it still hurts, well i had learned to accept it as long as he did it when we weren't going to have sex, but i recently found out he does it like after or before we have sex i asked him not to because it bothers me and i caught him again, and after a while he admitted he had a problem and was addicted and was going to seek help, so i stumbled upon porn filters and i mentioned it to him and he said he wouldn't mind but i don't know how porn works with guys, will this cause him to want to do others girls now that he can't wack it to just the thought of others? cause i always researched how to accept your guy looking at porn and they always said " you should be happy he's trying to control it not doing the real thing" hes always looked at porn so i don't know what problems it's going to cause if i apply this filter. What do you guys think
Razhie is right, as usual.
If a girl were to put a filter on my computer without my consent, I would break up with them immediately. That is such a betrayal. You don't trust him, so in order to make yourself feel more secure, you do the ultimate distrustworthy thing. How does that make sense?
Watching porn, unless it's disrupting a relationship between two mentally healthy people (see, you don't count), is perfectly natural. It is not a reflection on you. You are taking your own crushing insecurities and projecting them onto him so that he's the one with a problem, not you. Sorry, you have the problem. Fix it, or you will feel like this forever, because your boyfriend is not abnormal. I don't know a single guy that doesn't watch porn.
(Rating: 3) He actually asked me for help because he felt like he was addicted so i didn't do it without his consent i guess i should been more throughout in the question thanks anyway. And that is sad how society now believes porn is ok it's just sickening.