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gahhh my boyfriend is just acting like a huge meanie right now and it really irritates me!!

we've been dating for about 3 almost 4 months now and lets just say our past wasnt that great. i was super duper duper busy so everytime we made plans, i had to cancel on him. that didnt make him happy.

well last night we sorta had plans but my bff really needed to hang with me and talk with me (emergency) and so i was like- mike, i need to hang out with megan tonight. is that ok? and he goes- yeah thats ok.

so megan and i hang and talk and he didnt text me until just now and he doesnt seem himself. i asked him if he was mad and he said yes because i canceled on him yet again.

and now we are fighting and i said "mike, i asked you if it was ok if i cancelled and you said it was fine. why would you say that if its not ok??" and oiewhjwhirudjknseweiwfjkds idk what else to say. i'm just really irritated at him because he ALWAYS gets pissed about EVERYTHING. theres a ton of examples but i dont want to talk about them.

what do i do?? we broke up recently because i just couldn't handle all of the fights and i was so irritated and annoyed at him because he would get mad about things so easily. we decided to get back together and fix things.. but it doesnt seem like things are getting any better.. like just now. him getting mad at me for hanging out with my bff and i even asked him if it was ok and he said it was..

helppppp i'm soo annoyed and frustrated with him!!!!!

Maybe you should see it from his point of view for a moment. Of course he would say it's okay for you to hang around with your Best Friend, because he knows that had he said "No, it's not okay" then you would've freaked out anyway, and got mad at him.
You say you've cancelled on him for a week now- how do you think he feels? Neglected, probably. I don't think you'd be very happy either if he continuously cancelled on you for a week. You'd be there, probably getting mad at him.
Stop being so self-centered for a moment, and see things the way he does. He's not getting mad at you on purpose- it's because you're inflicting it.
I know this might sound mean, but that is exactly the idea I get from your question.
Make a little effort, and spend time with him as soon as you can, and don't cancel it. He deserves some attention too, he is after all your boyfriend.

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