Matt's advice column

Well i used to be really really jealous and me and my boyfriend of four years broke up because of it, because he kept lying to not hurt me, and it bothered me when he watched porn and stuff, but later he begged me back and he said he loved me & wanted me back. So now that we were together i asked him not to look at porn and if he wanted pictures or something i would send him some and even though i'm trying to get un-jealous like before i wouldn't let him go out without me(yeah i was psycho lol) but now i let get him get away with a lot but i still have jealous thoughts every once in a while, so the day before i wanted my moms number that he had on his phone and i had just gotten a new phone so i asked him for it and he didn't want to give it to me so i got suspicions? And i was like are you doing something wrong? Later he admitted he had porn on it, and i got kinda upset in my head, and later i couldn't stop thinking about it and i was sad and basically said told him i know it's because they look better or you fantasize about other girls but i was saying it not asking it.It was really supposed to be a rhetorical question. And he said well i do fantasize about other girls cause you're the only one i've been with, ( i told him he wasn't supposed to answer and he said he didn't know) and that hurt me really bad and i was like so you'd go with another girl and do her and he said "i just want to" and i was like so you do want to, and he said yeah. Like is that normal? Should i be mad or break up with him? Like now it disgusts me cause we're not even married like i know that happens to married people that have been together for a long time, but us i'm young i have the same body as the porn stars except without the fake big boobs mine are real so i just don't know how to react or what to do. i Just hung up on him cause without saying anything cause this happened right before he went into work so he didn't call back.
Please just tell me your opinions.

Dearcandore is by no means an "advice guru" or "life coach." I shudder to think how someone's life would turn out with them doing the coaching. Dearcandore is misinformed, wrong, and not qualified to give advice.

Anyway, he shouldn't be outright telling you that he wants to fuck other girls. But that's the only instance where he's in the wrong. He should be able to watch porn. He should be able to go out on his own. He should be able to have a life that doesn't have a psycho bitch girlfriend freaking out every ten seconds. Chill out, get a hobby, get a dog; be less crazy and maybe he'll stay with you, because at this rate he's better off bailing.

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(Rating: 2) Lol, i agree with the first part of dearcandore but the second part was pretty harsh, i became this way because of him i was never jealous but he would always talk about how he wanted to be with others and thought others were better and wished i was better and blah and i was stupid enough to stay but he changed and i became jealous then he started being a sweetheart while i was a psycho bitch so now i changed i let him do whatever but stuff still bothers me sometimes it's just something i have trouble with as a person, Thank you anyway though:)

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