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I'm 14 and just found out I'm pregnant. I plan to keep my baby as of right now but I haven't broke it to my mom yet. I guess you could say I'm sort-of excited though cause I always wanted to have kids. Anyways I know I'm not alone and that there are lots of people raising babies at a young age. I'm just curious...has anybody here become a young mother? Any personal stories to share about being a young mom? :)
I'm not a young mother myself but my younger sister got pregnant at 15.
Everyone is different but my sister was not ready to be a mother. It takes immense maturity and responsibility to raise a child, neither of which my sister possesses. Now you need to bear in mind that even before she got pregnant, she was in alot of trouble. She'd been kicked out of school and then out of the referral unit she was sent to. She would argue with the family whenever she was at home, she would steal from us and would then disappear for days at a time to stay with her boyfriend.
While she was pregnant, she was very excited about it all, getting everything ready and reading up on stuff. We started to feel optimistic, hoping that the baby would change things for her and help her become a better person. Towards the end of the pregnancy, she got a new boyfriend and started refusing to go to school (by this point she was attending an educational facility for teen mothers). Like before, she'd disappear for days at a time, right up until she was full term.
The mistake my sister made was to not think beyond the birth. She was excited about having him but had neglected to remember the responsibility it entailed. In short, she'd forgotten that a baby was just the start.
Now, the baby is 3 months old. My parents have pretty much done everything so far. My sister stays with her boyfriend more than she stays at home and rarely looks after her child. My parents both work and are both struggling to look after a baby and keep up their jobs. There is a recession going on, they can't afford to take time off. On top of that, the financial burden of supporting a child is HUGE. And guess who's footing the bill? That's right, my parents.
Like I said at the beginning, everyone is different but you should seriously consider everything. Yes, you will have a cute baby to love and care for but you will also have a 5 year old, then a 10 year old then a teenager to support. You need to think long and hard about how you plan to do this, both financially and emotionally. Remember that this is a permanent decision which will change the rest of your life. At 14 are you really ready for that step?
Good luck.
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