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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end. I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.
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20/f, dating a 20/m
My boyfriend and I have been dating for just about two weeks now, and I'm very very happy with him. But I'm really anxious about discussing sex with him.. in my last relationship, we rushed into sex and slept together after only 10 days. It set an unhealthy precedent for our relationship and this time I really want to wait. My new bf and I have made out, but that's it. He's too polite and shy to bring it up, but I know its on his mind, judging by his attitude when we're making out and it gets pretty heavy..
I don't want to rush into sex, but I'm not sure how to start that dialogue with him. I don't even know if he's a virgin or not, and I really want to know but I don't want to just ask him and make it seem like sex is the only thing on my mind =/
How do a start the sex conversation without embarassing each other or being weird? Do I wait? What do I do?? Thanks in advance!
Just bring it up. Say that you guys haven't really discussed it, and that you don't want to make a big deal out of anything, but you really think sex is an important part of a relationship and that you don't want to rush or have the relationship be based on sex. Ask each other questions about your sex life, like being virgins, diseases and stuff like that just to make sure everyone is clean. Even get tested just to be safe.
Make sure you tell him that sex isn't the only thing on your mind, but that you just want to be safe, informed and assured. I'm sure he won't find it weird at all. If anything, he'll be relieved that you asked since you said that he's shy. Don't be nervous! This is a very normal & healthy thing.
Good luck & be safe!
(Rating: 5) Thanks so much! I think approaching it this way might be what's best.. :)