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Okay i weigh aroung 160 and I'm thirteen. now i know what your thinking but just wait. I look like i weigh 120 lbs, the reason i am 160 is that i have very large breast i wear a 38d and my mom makes fun of my weight, she calls me names and it really hurts me. How should i deal with it when it's not me that's causing the weight?
Ok you gotta love you, people who spend a lot of energy making fun of people because of their weight, have issues thems selves with their image. My aunt did it and it turns out she has serious image issues, she is never good enough to herself, my friends family, they are the same way...they have issues with how they look. It's gonna sound cliche but you are gonna have to learn to ignore her. I know she is your mom and you love her and therefore the things she says to you can effect your balance. You have to not let that happen. If you look in the mirror and you love the way you look, and you go to the doctor and they say you are healthy, then that is that. You don't need your mom's aproval, and as long as she sees it bothers you she is going to do it. It's like a child, that is the child in her that wants to make you feel bad cause she feels bad and she is trying to make herself feel better by making you look bad, she sees you are happy with who you are and she is not, so she is trying to bring you down. Now this doesn't make her a bad mom or something, don't get me wrong, this is just a result of her upbringing and her inner issues. If you keep letting it bother you, you are going to have weight issues and self love issues and self beauty issues and you will look to men to make you feel good...or something along those lines, So stop it NOW. Say, if she was not my mom, if she was just some stranger on the street, would I still be all bent out of shape over it? Probably not, so when she gets going, just straight up ignore her and if you want, smile and say, I love you mom. That's it. Plain and simple. Accept that she has an issue that she can't get over, and just love her, send her peace. Feel me? It'll work.
(Rating: 5) Thnank you so much, but i actually hate my mom it sounds bad but shes a bad mom but ill stil try :)