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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end. I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.
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Is it horrible for me to hate my sister?
We have never really gotten along before. I am 21 and she is 19. We have both had very different up bringings. I was raised by my grandparents and she was raised by my mother.
She is a very attention seeking person and will do what others tell her or do or say things to fit in a crowd.. She doesn't work, throws in all her jobs because she doesn't want to work.
She has very minor 'operations' (its just like having a pap smear) and writes it all over face book for everyone to see. She never even finished school.
where as I, I have always worked since I finished year 12. In good jobs to, first in a lawyers office now in a doctors surgery. I have also studied through TAFE.
My grandfather who raised me passed away suddenly in August. He was only 58 and was never sick before, he suffered from a stroke and was in a coma for 30days before passing.
Now the problem is my sister is putting all over face book that she 'misses and loves her poppy' Um hello... she never had anything to do with him for 4 years!!! Every time our parents told her she had to come to nanna and pops house she would make herself vomit so she didn't have to go.
She's never really had anything to do with me before either. This isn't the only things that are contributing to my feelings of hate towards her.
Should I confront her and tell her that I wont don't want anything to do with her anymore and that she should stop writing things about my pop whom she's had nothing to do with for 4 years? Other wise i'm going to end up doing something childish that I will regret!
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This really is a touchy subject but I'm going to answer this based on experience.
My mother was abused by her mother, and moved out at 16. My mom grew up to resent her mother because of the way she was treated as a child, and stopped talking to her when I was a kid. Just recently, my uncle died and now my mother & her mother are talking again. It took a death for them to realize that the past is the past & that they need each other regardless.
I understand why you have an extreme dislike for your sister. I really do. I was in the same situation with my mom. I hated her mother for what she had done, but I can't change the fact that she's my grandmother. I'll always disagree with her actions, but like I said, the past is the past, I wasn't alive then & there's nothing I can do about. I'll always love my grandmother.
I think it's a little unfair of you to say that she shouldn't write things about your grandfather. He was her grandfather too and even if they weren't close, that doesn't mean that she doesn't love him. So, you can't really tell her what she can & cannot write about, but you need to tell her how you feel. Sit her down & be mature about this. You're 21 years old, act like it. Be honest with her, and be stern. Make sure you get your point across (without being rude).
Trust me, if you shut your sister out of your life, and something happens you will regret it. You don't have to be her best friend, but be civil.
(Rating: 5) Thank you. I will say that I am very mature for my age and always think before I act. However, I came on here to mostly vent. The advice was really good though. Thank you.