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so, im 17/m, my girlfriend (17 too) and I have been going out for almost a year and 3 months now. She's my first girlfriend, but really love her.
A few weeks ago we were on our way back from some back-to-school shopping in the city and she asked me how I felt about having a girlfriend when i was in college, (we're planning on going to different colleges next year and she wasn't sure how to feel either). I freaked out, had a meltdown and told her all kinds of things i had thought about, but never acted on. Like how she's my first girlfriend and how I wasnt 100% sure of how strongly I loved her, since I havent been with anyone else. After getting back to her house, we talked some more and cried alot and decided to just be friends for a while.
I got home, felt terrible and didnt sleep at all that night. I still loved her, she never did anything that annoyed me or made me love her any less. I texted her how horrible I felt that morning and we decided to meet and talk that night.
We were back together again within 24 hours. I had never felt better. Instead of leaving her house crying, i practicaly skipped to my car and happily waved goodbye to her as i drove away. I thought we were all better.
That was a few weeks ago, and now she's telling me that she's afraid to love me because i hurt her feelings when we broke up. She did the same thing when we started going out because her last boyfriend broke up with her and made her feel terrible. Ive been working as hard as i can, spending as much time as i can with her. I guess i cant really blame her because i freaked out so badly, but i want to make us work again!
I'm running out of energy trying to love her and getting no love back. Last night she gave me a handjob and wouldnt even look me in the eyes. i felt so detached...
Is there any way to fix what we have? or was our relationship doomed all along since she's my first? What can i say or do so that she knows i love her even though ive never had anything else?
i know exactly what you're going through. because i put my boyfriend through the same thing.
we all get scared off at times, i think you just freaked out on her because you LOVE her so much, and are scared of the possibility of losing her.
don't break up just because you think that nobody stays with their first love. it does happen. love her unconditionally, treat her like a princess. she does have her guard up though. i'm sure she had it up when she first started dating you, and then slowly let it down but after you broke up with her, it wen't back up again and showed her how vulnerable she really is and how quickly something can be taken away from you that you really love.
give her all the attention like you're doing. she's a girl, we all take time to heal. you hurt her, she is going to be a little sour towards you. talk to her, ask her what you can do to be close again. tell her how you're feeling, let it alllll out on the table boy.
i wouldn't ask her to be doing anything sexual right now. i would work on other things. you can buy her flowers (: we all love those. take her out to dinner. just sit there and cuddle with her and tell her you won't let anything happen to her because she means so much to you.
look her in the eyes and tell her you love her. just be there for her. i know it might get old, but like i said it will take time for her to let her guard down. but it will happen.
good luck! if you need anything else, don't be afraid to come back! ♥ LU
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Thanks alot! your advice helped me get over the "hump". I wasnt sure if she would ever start loving me again, but she has started coming around. hopefully, we're back on track to continuing our great relationship. Thanks!
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