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My name is Laura and I'm 28 years old. I live in Illinois and work as a licensed veterinary technician. I am a runner, bookworm and obviously, an animal lover.I've been on this site since '05. I take hiatuses, but I'm never gone for good. I enjoy giving advice and I've made such lovely friends on this site that I couldn't imagine giving it up!
chat it up yo.
ps. here's my bestestestest friend.
I love him. You will too :)
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i have 3 best friends. one in which is a guy. we go on and off with trying to like each other as more than just friends. but it never works. and that's okay because we continue being friends anyway. lately we have been closer than ever(in a bff type way)and i absolutely love it. i don't really want that to change. BUT he told me last night that he wants more than just "bff" and that he is going to stop being with other girls for me. i said i don't think he could do that(hes sort of a player)even though i know he would for me. i don't even know if i want him as more than a friend at this point. what i do know is i don't want to waste his time. what should i do?
Stay friends, and nothing more. Why, you ask? Just re read your question:
1. "we go on and off with trying to like each other as more than just friends. but it never works."
- It NEVER works. And you say you're ok with that, so why not just keep things the way they are?
2. "i don't really want that to change."
- Self explanatory. You don't WANT to be more than Bff's with him. And that's totally ok.
3. "i don't even know if i want him as more than a friend at this point."
- To me, it sounds like you don't. And like I said, that's ok.
So, the point of all of this is that you really don't sound like you want a relationship with him. Don't force yourself into anything, as it will only make the relationship 10 times more complicated. Just stay friends, and let him know that that is all you are comfortable with right now.
-Laura (17-f)
(Rating: 5) thanks :]