I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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my ex and i had dated for over a year a few years ago and then we dated other people on and off until july. we started dating and we were both really happy but i starting noticing that he was becoming more distant and so i talked to him about it many times. so we're both in highschool, same grade..all that jazz.
so it was almost four months and we started getting really tense, so i feared the worse.
then a week before four months he says he cant decide if he's happier with or without me..
so i wait all day, i went into school late, skipped lunch because i was scared to cry infront of him and i had been crying all morning.
so i went the rest of the day without crying and finally at one i broke down in his arms and i felt bad. so we talked a little bit in person but we started texting and he still couldnt decide so at like eleven that night i broke up with him hoping he'd be happier without me.. not so much
its been almost two weeks, and its not getting any easier. he said that if i was the same i was in the summer then he would date me again (happy, go lucky, enjoyable me) but i dont know how to be like that anymore.. any advice helps. thanks soo muchh!
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It's very clear to me that he still isn't yet ready to be committed to a relationship yet, because if he was, then we wouldn't be answering this question.
I think you should ask him how he feels for you because I think it is the only way in which you can decide what to do next. I know you've talked to him already but I think this time, you need to be serious because as far as I'm concerned, this guy is playing with your heart by making you wait for his decision as to whether he will be happy with or without you and it's clear that you love him a lot.
He needs to decide now as to whether he wants to be with you or not. He can't say "maybe I'll date you in the summer", because summer is quite a way away and you can't wait for that long. From what I've learnt from this site, when a relationship doesn't work after the third try, then it doesn't ever seem to pick up afterwards. I know that wasn't what you wanted to read but....
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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i guess you're right about him not being ready.
thanks soo much for the advice.
i'll use it everyday.
:)
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