Okay, I was dating this guy who I was with for two years (we're not together anymore).
I lost my virginity to him, but honestly I didn't enjoy having sex with him.
I'm trying to make this as clean as possible, because I really don't want to break the rules, but I need help.
Anyway, he would want to do it all the time, but if I said I didn't feel like it, he'd tell me to stop being selfish and that sometimes you have to put your feelings aside for the one you love.
So, sometimes I'd give in, but sometimes I'd keep saying no, and he'd as if he could just "put it in" once so he could go and take care of it himself or something. Sometimes I'd let him, sometimes I wouldn't.
But one time when I did let him, he didn't just do it once, so I told him to stop, and he didn't. So I kept telling him to stop and eventually I was crying and he held my arms down so I couldn't fight him until he came...
Now he's trying to say it wasn't rape because I willingly let him put it in, and he tried to say I liked it, which I swear I didn't. I was crying the whole time.
I know it's probably a stupid question, and I'm not planning on going to the police or anything because it happened about a year ago, I just need to know for my own sake if that would be considered rape or not.
Thanks.
If someone forces themselves on you then it is rape. If someone doesn't stop when you tell them to then it is rape. It doesn't matter if you 'let him put it in' because you told him to stop and he didn't. The fact that he was holding you down to stop you from fighting back and that you were crying makes the situation even more serious.
I can understand if you don't want to go to the police. Cases like this are incredibly hard to prove and it would be very stressful and upsetting for you to go through. However, pressing charges could prevent him from doing this to other girls in future.
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Thank you so much.
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