I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.
I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.
My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!
The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.
I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.
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My dearest friend is unhappy with her love life. But she's been with this guy for about 3 and a half years. She's about 18 now. All they do is fight and make one another miserable. She says she would be miserable with out him but other days she said she's scared to be alone and thats why she stays with him. I wouldn't say it's much of a relationship due to how they treat each other.
In the past I have tried my best to tell her she needs someone better. I've even gone as far as verbally attacking her boyfriend and telling him to get out of her life. I'm worried about her and it makes me sick to see her so unhappy. Lately I've been just sitting by her side and listening to her. She says thats all she wants and appreciates it from me. I try my best to support her and be honest when she asks something of me. But I want to tell her to move on from her boyfriend and find someone new or take some time for herself. Like she knows reality of how everything is.. But Idk...
Have I done the right thing by no longer meddling and being by her side instead if she needs me? Or should I take action again? (link)
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I can understand as to why she's relectuant to leave him. Being with somebody for three and a bit years makes you used to company, even if that company makes you unhappy and then face being alone is what a lot of people don't like to face.
You've done the right thing and the best thing you can do know is to offer her a place to stay for a while (ensure that you say 'for a while' if you do ask her). That way, she has her own space to think it out and find the best way to move on from her boyfriend and that you aren't far away if she wants to talk and she wouldn't be lonely.
I wouldn't take action again because its not going to help. If it didn't help before, why should it work now?
I hope this helped,
triquetra
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