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I'm closing my account after being on this site for longer than I can remember right now.

I would like to say thank you to all the columnists that I've met through this site, may your hearts of gold continue to shine through this site.

My reason is simple: I no longer feel I have a use for it anymore. I once was a person who couldn't help other people because of certain difficult situations in my past, but all that has now changed. This site allowed me to be who I really was and for that I'm so grateful for that. It played a very important role in my life and I'll never forget it!

The questions which I answered allowed me to reflect on my life and where it was going, and gave me the opportunity to really appreciate the life that I have, which I'm now living with open arms.

I wish you well for the future,
Triquetra....signing off for the last time.


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About every night or so I have these horrible dreams that me and my boyfriend break up and I leave him for my ex. But in real life I would never ever want to do that! or even think about doing it. Me and my ex went out for less then a week so I didnt really like him. and me and my boyfriend have been together for about a month now...I really like him. Are these dreams because Im scared to loose him? Also every time I have these dreams I tell my boyfriend. I dont know why I do..I just think he has a right to know when I dream about him. He thinks if I keep dreaming it..then its going to happen. I'm scared he's going to end up thinking I dont want him...but everytime we are together I show him how much I care for him so maybe that isn't true. I dont know...I'm just paranoid to loose him because everyone I've had in my life has walked off. either with someone else or just alone. (meaning I got cheated on alot) but anyways...what's up with these dreams? (link)
It seems to me that you're afraid to loose this guy. Becasue you didn't like the other guy, you're just afraid that something may happen and that you loose your current boyfriend and end up with somebody whom you don't like.

It won't happen unless something happens which makes the breakup happen.

When you dream, your subconscious self is telling you as to what you're feeling at the moment in time, so right now, you're main concern is to keep your boyfriend close to you and that you don't want to end up with somebody like your last boyfriend.

I would also surgest that you stop telling him that you have these dreams, because the more often that you tell him that you have them, the more lkely it will be that he begins to pull away and you've already said that he thinks that it will happen, so he may begin to pull away. So don't tell him if you want the realtionship to last.

Here's a website which I found which could help, just scroll down to 'Break-Up' and see whether that helps:
http://www.dreammoods.com/dreamdictionary/b3.htm

I hope this helped,
triquetra


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yeah i stopped telling him lol thanks




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