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Q: I don't know what else to do, this might be long but I really need help.
I'm 18/f and my bf recently broke up with me since I decided to respect my religion and not "do" things with him when he comes to visit my country next. (We both have diff. religions). So when he was breaking up (he did it online, he lives in another country, he studies there), he threatened me with things like "i will f*** you up so bad", "you will SO regret this", "i will show you what it means to get me angry", "you SO will suffer" and so on. And he will do those things when he visits his family (his family lives where I live..). He knows which uni I go to, and knows where my house is. He beat up his ex-gf before and told me the story as a "warning" not to piss him off.. I'm terrified, I think he plans on physically hurting me. There's about 13 more days till he gets here.. I've already planned on talking to my uni counselor about this but I need help from people around my age. I'm not strong to cope with this, I haven't slept for days getting nightmares of him coming after me, I've considered calling the airport and notifying them not to let him in the country but if I do that, I'd just make a fool out of myself. Please please please, I'm really panicking =*(
Thanks for your time, I appreciate it greatly.
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Tell someone about this. Speak to counselors, even your parents if you have to. If somebody is threatening to hurt you, its serious. Don't be afraid to do anything you need to do to stay safe. If it means contacting police or other law enforcement then do it. If you still have any conversations or e-mails saved, or will talk again and he brings it up, save it. You don't need to panic about this, but just be prepared. He could be just bluffing to make you feel bad, and to make him feel better about himself.
Actually, I really respect you for sticking to your religion. For that, you really won't suffer, no matter what he or anyone else says to you. You did the right thing. Tell other adults, and your close friends if you trust them with this. If you still don't feel safe, then make sure you can find away to be with your family, friends, or law enforcement with you when he arrives. Please, don't panic and don't be afraid to defend yourself. I hope that helped and good luck.
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You helped a lot, thank you.
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54843
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