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Q: Well, here's the thing.
I've been dating my boyfriend Fred for 2 months. It'll be our two month anniversary tomorrow! Nothing has ever gotten in the way of our realationship, at least nothing until I went to Massachuttes. I mean, I've attracted other boys before, but I've always shrugged them off. I would say, "I have an amazing boyfriend, what else could I ask for?" But then I met Brandon. It was an instant attraction. So we would talk. Flirt. Talk. Flirt. And Flirt. I don't usually trust people but I instantly trusted him. When I left he gave me a hug and all his contact info. We talk like all the time and we both like eachother. He's not the the type that I usually go for. He's been through alot but he's really mature but at the same time so funny. I think that's what attracts me to him. We're so different, but at the same time, so much alike. Opposites attract. I mean, It's not like I don't love my boyfriend anymore. It's just differnt. I've talked to him about how I'm feeling, but I don't seem to say the right thing. Does this mean I've fallen out of love? Do I really have a choice anymore? Maybe I'm too young for anything. Please help. All advice is accepted.
In hope of help,
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Thanks for dropping one in my inbox, feel free to do so again anytime.
It seems that you are emotionally confused. Of course you still have a choice, because you really do need to choose you love. You need to sort out your feelings before you continue or make any drastic changes. Ask yourself a few questions, like:
-Are things between me and Fred serious?
-Why am I dating Fred?
-How would Fred react to this if I told him what had happened?
-Does our relationship or even just friendship really mean a lot to me?
-Is breaking things up with Fred worth taking a chance with Brandon?
You just met Brandon, so I really don't think its "love". If you've been friends with Fred for a long time now, and you know you have strong feelings for him, then its a safer bet to stay with him.
Why? Well because you just met Brandon, and while you did have a good time...did you say he's in Massachusetts? Is that far from you? Do you really think it would be a good idea to sacrifice something you have going just for a mere 'chance' at things with Brandon? I don't think it would be a good idea.
You need to sort out your feelings and decide on your own. Personally I say stay with Fred because the Brandon thing was a come-and-go, and doesn't seem so serious. You can still talk to him, but keep in mind that it wouldn't go anything past a friendship. Keep things real with Fred, he's the one you see all the time...right? Hope that helped and good luck.
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thankyou so much.
i mean me and fred...well i love him. he treats me so well. And I did tell him about the whole brandon thing....adn that I did kinda have feelings for him. Fred was so nice about it. Like he was going to be willing to work it out. My feelings fo Brandon are starting to go away and I really am happy with Fred.
Thankyou so much
you give such good advice!
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54806
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