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I love my boyfriend, but like someone else...HELP
Well, here's the thing.
I've been dating my boyfriend Fred for 2 months. It'll be our two month anniversary tomorrow! Nothing has ever gotten in the way of our realationship, at least nothing until I went to Massachuttes. I mean, I've attracted other boys before, but I've always shrugged them off. I would say, "I have an amazing boyfriend, what else could I ask for?" But then I met Brandon. It was an instant attraction. So we would talk. Flirt. Talk. Flirt. And Flirt. I don't usually trust people but I instantly trusted him. When I left he gave me a hug and all his contact info. We talk like all the time and we both like eachother. He's not the the type that I usually go for. He's been through alot but he's really mature but at the same time so funny. I think that's what attracts me to him. We're so different, but at the same time, so much alike. Opposites attract. I mean, It's not like I don't love my boyfriend anymore. It's just differnt. I've talked to him about how I'm feeling, but I don't seem to say the right thing. Does this mean I've fallen out of love? Do I really have a choice anymore? Maybe I'm too young for anything. Please help. All advice is accepted.
In hope of help,
cheapxphotography
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It seems that you are emotionally confused. Of course you still have a choice, because you really do need to choose you love. You need to sort out your feelings before you continue or make any drastic changes. Ask yourself a few questions, like:
-Are things between me and Fred serious?
-Why am I dating Fred?
-How would Fred react to this if I told him what had happened?
-Does our relationship or even just friendship really mean a lot to me?
-Is breaking things up with Fred worth taking a chance with Brandon?
You just met Brandon, so I really don't think its "love". If you've been friends with Fred for a long time now, and you know you have strong feelings for him, then its a safer bet to stay with him.
Why? Well because you just met Brandon, and while you did have a good time...did you say he's in Massachusetts? Is that far from you? Do you really think it would be a good idea to sacrifice something you have going just for a mere 'chance' at things with Brandon? I don't think it would be a good idea.
You need to sort out your feelings and decide on your own. Personally I say stay with Fred because the Brandon thing was a come-and-go, and doesn't seem so serious. You can still talk to him, but keep in mind that it wouldn't go anything past a friendship. Keep things real with Fred, he's the one you see all the time...right? Hope that helped and good luck.
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No one is in a relationship because they are never attracted to another person. People are in relationships because they have made a choice to be true to that one person, regardless of their attractions to others.
In the grand scheme of things, you really haven't been with Fred all that long. If you are already having serious doubts about the relationship, maybe you have a really good idea there:
Maybe you aren't ready for a 'boyfriend'.
If you aren't ready to choose just one person, you need to be honest about it, to yourself and to him, or you will cause you both a shit load of pain.
Just because someone is 'amazing' doesn't mean you will definately want to be with them.
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Dear cheapxphotography,
I have certanily been in this situation before. I think you have fallen a little bit out of love or maybe he isn't loving you as much as ya'll used to be. Thats how I felt. Or maybe your feelings for the Brandon person is more than the one's for Fred. I think you should take some time and write the good and bad things about both and see what happens. I hope you have some luck with this
Lots of luck,
lovelylady1993
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