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I've been friends with this guy Brandon for two years. I honestly love him, I mean we haven't just been friends we've been going out and sometimes things stop us but this time nothing is getting in the way. My mom doesn't like him at all, she doesn't know that we ever dated. I love him and I know I'm too young (16) to be making the decision of who I want to be with for the rest of my life but I know I love him. Last night I told him that I can't be with him anymore because my parents don't want me to marry out of my religion (I'm a muslim and he's Christian.) He was crying and so was I. I want to be with him more then anything but my dad said if I marry him he's going to leave my mom and I love my mom and don't want her to be alone because I'm being a selfish snob. I don't know how I can make them understand that he means absoluely everything to me. Any suggestions on what I should do?


I'm not looking to marry right now but if my parents can't even accept Brandon as a boyfriend how will they accept him as a son in law.

Hm i really don't know how this leaving your mom thing would work out. ask your dad if he would really do that just because of you marrying a christian. would he really want to put more unnecessary pain into the family? I would say just stay with Brandon but don't really be together technically so you're not like banned from seeing him. Maybe once you are older, they will accept him. Once you move on after college theres not much they can do to keep you from marrying him. you're 16... you don't need to make any drastic changes yet so don't get so worked up about it. if you were say, 26, and they hated him, then you have a problem. that's basically all i can think of right now... a little scrambled but if you have anything specific you want me to asnwer, let me know & i'll try my best.

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