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Q: About a month or two ago I made a promise to God that I would not masturbate until I turned 14. Several months ago, probably like 3 or 4 maybe 5, I turned 13. But, I broke that promise. And I know it's really bad to do that, and I'm a Catholic! But the really bad thing is, that I keep telling God I won't do it again, but I do! Sometimes when I cross my legs my clitoris throbs and it feels good, does that count? A part of me feels like he forgives me, partly because it was the time of my period when you're in heat, but part of me feels like he won't forgive me and I don't deserve to go to Heaven. I feel like I've broken my promise, God never breaks a promise and I feel unworthy. I talk to God a lot, I pray a lot, and praise him a lot. But sometimes I'm not nice to others like I should be. Like lying, or making fun of someone and not apologizing, although most of the time I do, yet I do it again! I truly, truly, truly need help to keep my promise and stay un-horny. Will I go to hell for this? Will he forgive me? I feel so scared, I want to go to Heaven! I worship God with all my heart, I really do. And I believe in Jesus and his commandments and in the beatitudes. But one night a while back, I wanted to sort of have my own way of getting an immediate answer with him. Years ago, I bought a statue of Jesus from Canada and the hands broke off accidentally. So I took one hand and fell alseep with it in my hand and asked him to have me wake up with it on the right side of my bed if the answer was "Yes, you will go to Heaven." and it go to the left side if the answer was no. It landed on the left side underneath me! I'm scared. I've done this before, and I asked him if I would meet my sisters in Heaven (I never met them) and it landed on the right side. Is this kind of witch craft or something? Well I'm really scared, so please answer this question!
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Hey, let me tell you right away that nobody here or anywhere else will decide or be able to tell you that you are going to hell.
Do some research (and please, don't take everything you hear on sitcoms to heart when it comes to religion), and look up the lives of many saints and holy people. They made mistakes too. Nobody's perfect.
God will forgive you if you are truly sorry. I would go receive the sacrament of reconciliation and confess. I know - probably crossed your mind but feel like you can't do that, but trust me - priests have heard just about everything so there really isn't anything you can tell them that will make them mad or go crazy.
Relax, and don't get so caught up about all of this. If you feel the way you do, then why wouldn't you go to heaven? Please understand that you can't go to hell for a mistake or broken promise you made. People who go to hell are ones who do not want to follow God, and want to deliberately do whatever in their power to go against him. They don't praise him, they curse him. You actually want to do what is right and good - so that is big points in his book. I'm not a judge, but I feel that God will at some point judge us fairly and give us what is due.
It is OK to ask what other people think. I encourage you to do that. I would ask that you make sure you know who you are asking before you take what they said word for word. We all make mistakes, myself included, so don't be afraid to ask somebody in the church, like a nun or a priest, or even write to them. Please, don't feel like your alone either, because plenty of people go through the same problem, and in most cases even much worse. Hope that helped and hope you feel better, let me know through an inbox if you need anything else.
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Thank you so much, I'm really relieved now! God bless!
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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