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i like a boy, but whenever i try to talk to him i get so nervous & i cant think of anything to say. he also has a sense of humor, so i wish i could joke around with him but i'm too nervous. do u have any advice on how to talk to him? thanks

okay well first of all if you worry too much about what you're saying and how you're saying it, you'll seem distracted and not very interested in the person you're talking to. Instead of being wrapped up in yourself, focus your attention on the guy who's talking to you. Don't think ahead to what you're going to say next! Really listen to what he is saying and respond with thoughtful answers that show you've been listening.Don't let fear of rejection or bad experiences from the past make you paranoid about a conversation that's happening in the present. Try to relax and focus only on the person you are talking to. Remember that he is probably more nervous than you! If you have to, fake being perfectly at ease and it will turn into reality. The best flirts are girls who can do it without expecting anything to come of it. Guys love flirting with girls who seem like they could get anyone they want. Develop that attitude! Try to think of flirting as an enjoyable activity in itself, without always worrying about the final result. It's kind of like shopping - you can have fun cruising the mall and trying on clothes, even if you don't end up buying anything. Of course, your ultimate goal is to score "the perfect outfit" - but don't be in a rush, or you'll scare off guys by seeming desperate. Practice flirting with guys you aren't that interested in, and soon you'll be able to flirt with the guy you adore and still seem casual. good luck!!

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(Rating: 5) thank you so much for giving me all that advice! i feel better about talking to him now. thanks

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