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My name is Ryan. And I will answer most everything you want to ask to the best of my God given ability.But I will not sugar coat any answer and I will give MY advice. I don't care about my ratings, so don't think giving me a 1 for an answer you don't want to hear will scare me. And if you already know what you should do about a sitaution, don't come to us here at advicenators asking for a second opinion. And here below is a list of questions you should NOT ask on advicenators. Granted some of them may vary and be acceptable, but overall don't ask the below questions on Advicenators.
**Don't ask questions like "OMG i heard this song on the radio with "insert pointless pop lyrics here" and i wanna know what it is so what is it! Thanks!! I rate 5sssss! hearts". This question can be simply googled with the lyrics, or you need only ask a friend
**Don't ask "ok so there is the hott guy/gal in my class and he/she like got me a *insert gift or simple trinket here* do you think he/she likes me?" This is the most common question here on this website sadly. Unless it is vitally important and actually pertains to a feeling of true feelings, don't ask it. This is most asked by teens. And what teens need to learn is "love" is not thinking a guy/girl is sweet and hott and nice. I know love, and it is so far from all those things. Remember Cicero when he said "Out of all the emotions, love is the most violent. Love is madness."
**"Ok so me and my boyfriend had sex last night and we like used no protection omg he came in me do you think i am pregnant?" Ugh. Stupid teens and their hormones. IF YOU HAVE SEX YOU ALWAYS RUN THE RISK OF PREGNANCY, UNLESS YOUR STERILE. And if you don't know anything about sex, you shouldn't be doing it. Even if you "love" your partner, half the time this is a disallusion and you will end up hurt. Sex is for marriage.
**Or asking what's "in" for fashion, or what they should wear out tonight. Or what is "cute" and what looks good. Pick and choose for yourself what you like, think for yourself instead of trying to let other people do it for you. Stand up and be yourself.
These are the most common questions I have seen on Advicenators. Now there are a few questions that are very good questions and deserve the 3 rating and the best answer possible. But they are usually blocked out with the kinds of questions listed above. If you want to ask something, check the following off that I am listing.
1.Does the question pertain to anything important or trivial?
2.Is proper grammar used?
3.Is the question long and in one paragraph?
4.Is it a question that you yourself can answer?
5.Is there enough detail?
Following those 5 guidelines, you can write a good 3 point answer. That about wraps it up.
I spend alot of time online and here on advicenators, so if you ever need anything then just send something in my inbox or IM me. I'm not opposed to helping people at all, in fact I love doing it. I just want some people to wake up from asking a stupid question.
Thank you all for your time.
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Okay, I like this guy. A lot. In fact, I think I'm in love with him. We talk and stuff, and he's really sweet, but he's still in that 6th grade-boyish phase. The one where he only hangs out with guys, has never had a girlfriend, doesn't hug girls, doesn't hang out with them on weekends, and the word "girlfriend" never crosses his mind. He's really goofy, not at all attractive, and gets in trouble a lot for being a smart ass in school, but I love him. I'm gonna hang out with him soon with some of my other friends, but I just don't know how to get him to like me. I'd be way more confident if he's had a previous girlfriend, or has hung out with girls before, or another girl was attracted to him, but technically, I'm the first official one, so it's going to be more difficult than it seems. I know he's in percussion, and he's a great singer, (but doesn't persue singing), and I sing too...but still, I'm not sure how I'm going to do this. For once, I'm at a brick wall and don't know how to climb over it. Help would be greatly appriciated. (link)
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Sure thing, here's your help.
From your given words, I have determined you simply have nothing more than a like for him and not love, despite what you think. Love is such a deep and primal emotion that to "think" you're in love usually means you're not.
My next point, boys that age won't get over that "6th grade-boyish phase" until they are much older. And at the age they are at they will be extremely stubborn to girls. I've been there in my life and I can testify first hand that if a chick comes up to you liking you, you're not gonna know what to do and you're gonna retreat right back to your buddies (or if you were me, no one because I didn't have any real friends back then).
Therefore, if you really wanna pursue this guy then I would suggest not being overly attached and play more to his friendly side. Of course I would just advise againts it entirely because all it really is is a backlash of puberty and honestly kids around 13 and 14 are so fickle with their emotions it isn't worth bothering with.
There you be and I hope you were helped by my words.
-Ryan
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