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(Before I start I'm 18 and a freshman in college.) I was in a exclusive relationship about 8 months ago. It ended badly and I ended up getting hurt. My boyfriend of 1 year cheated on me, more than once. Anyways ever since then, I'v only had casual relationships, not sex I just wouldn't exclusively date one guy at a time. I met this one guy in class, after we were assigned in pairs for a project. And I started to like him. A lot. And I knew he liked me too, because he was flirting with me and walking me to classes ect. I was taking a walk outside when it was raining (Don't ask me why I just like the rain)and he came up to me when I was sitting on the bench. He said he saw me and wanted to know what I was doing sitting on a campus bench in a rainstorm. By that time it was raining really hard.(Before I go any farther he asked me out twice by then, but he was a boyfriend kind of guy and didn't do casual anymore, so I turned him down) I said I was just going for a walk, and he sat down beside me. We talked for a while in the pouring rain, and then he leaned over and kissed me. It turned into a pretty heavy make out session and I started thinking 'what the hell am I doing, I can't be his girlfriend I'm not gonna put myself in the position to be hurt again'. Anyways I pushed him away away and when he was about to say something I spoke before him. I said "I'm sorry, but this was a mistake, I can't do exclusive realationships, you know that" (Those were my exact words) Even though I really liked him I didn't want to get hurt again. I stood up ready to walk away when he caught my wrist, he said "You can't or you won't, why can't you give a relationship a fighting chance. I really like you, a lot more than you know and I know you feel the same. You and I both know It wasn't a mistake" and then I said "Thats where your wrong" and I walked off. He called my name but didn't try to stop me again. I'v been avoiding him for the last few days, and he's called my cell phone a million times. I don't know what to do, I really really like him. He's sweet, funny, gorgeous, caring, honest (I could go on but I'll spare you)I know he's not my ex but I'm just scared. Scared of what I feel for him and scared I'll get hurt again. When we were kissing everything felt so right. I felt safe and loved and not lost anymore. He's offering me a real relationship, a healthy realtionship. But should I take the chance? What should I do? Is the ball in my court?

The ball's in your court. If I were you, I would give him a chance..we both know you really want to;) ...just the risk of getting hurt again is preventing you, right? Well, what if this opportunity passes by and you regret it later? This could be the next step towards recovering from your past relationship..if you don't take THIS chance with this guy that you really like...then when will you? Just do it..infact, get offline and call him right now:)

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(Rating: 4) Thanx

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