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Hiii everyone (= im Brianna but people mostly call me bee & im the sweet 16. i was born 9 - 9 - 90. i have two younger brothers which makes me the only girl and the oldest. im in 10th grade at HAHS. i plan to either be a pediatrican or an accountant. i have a problem trusting boys. just boys in general. i think because of my past relationship, it made me realize how easy it is to believe a lie. but dont get me wrong, i will give a boy a chance, i just learnd not to believe everything someone says unless its proven to me. i dont really have a best friend actually i consider my mom my best friend. i tell her everything and i cant picture myself hiding something from her. i plan to get married eventually but no kids. im a unique person and i could be trusted with anything. i like to help people out and make them realize things from a different view. so thats what brings me to this site. if you have any questions or need help with a situation, im here (=
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I have mass friends at school, but recently I come to find out, several of them are getting pregnant, and having kids. It's not like they are twenty or something. Otherwise, I wouldn't care because they're old enough (I think). They are ranging from 14 to 17 years old.
I find it seriously ridiculous that my friends are just having sex like it's nothing, and end up getting pregnant. In fact, a few of those people are Christians, and told me so many times they would never do that and it's pathetic. Months later, they find a guy, have sex with them, and they leave my friends. Later on coming to find out they are pregnant and have the kid.
If it was like 1 or 2 people, I would understand. But it's becoming an epidemic almost at my school. Approximately 10 girls are pregnant (whom are my friends), and another 5 had their kid within the last year.
Don't criticize me of my opinion though because I really can't help it. I am a Christian, I love my friends, I still pray for them, and support them. But I just get so mad thinking about it, like they basically ruined what was going for them. A friend of mine wanted to leave her house (family problems) and become a Vet. Now she got pregnant, and she is stuck there in poverty. Can't even afford a decent meal for her and her child, since her family is stuck on welfare and social security for paying for other things. Her boyfriend like left her, so there is very little for her and her son. She is battling for the father to pay for child support.
Please don't get me wrong to whoever has been in that situation of getting pregnant at an early age. I can see the struggle in it, and the effects, but seeing my friends make bad choices just angers me because I want them to have self-respect, and do something successful. I am quite prude, so don't judge me on that, and you can't blame me at some extent. I feel guilty for basically not trying to understand the reasons why it happened, and the circumstances. It's hard to understand.
So, my question is, how can I get over this?? I've been trying for a long time to get over it, but more people getting pregnant, so my anger comes back.
Please remember I am not here to judge, criticize, or offend anyone here, so don't take it personally. I just need advice, please. Thanks!
You are no where near wrong on having your opinions. everyone has their opinion on something, thats what makes the world go round. to be honest, i agree with you. Its something that happens alot in my school, and its not because of an accident, girls actually want a baby at their age and to me its not right. to keep you from getting into situations you dont want to be, keep your opinions to yourself. but everything you said, i can relate to. ive never been kissed or had like any sexual intercourse so believe me i know what your saying. like to me, girls should have alot of respect for themselves and realize they have a whole life ahead of them to do that stuff. but some just dont get it. and i dont think nothing will change their mind. cause look they see it happened to other girls so why arent they learning ? its just one of those situations that they need to find out on their own. i know their your friends but all you can do is sit back and watch. in the end, it will make you so much stronger, i believe in that 100%. maybe try writing also, to get your thoughts out. if you can think of anything else to help, notify me too. since i feel the same exact way. good luck with everything and always remember you are your own person and you have your own thoughts.
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