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Q: Okay, I'm gonna say sorry for some of the words I'll be using but anywhos.
You know when you say like negro [sp] or nigger to an african american or call everyone from south american mexicans (which means you're ignoring their individuality) it's considered racism and rude and hateful remarks using vitriolic words? Well, when people call someone form south korea a chinese or japanese, that's considered racism too. It's saying that all the individual countries are not important enough for them to acknowledge them as seperate places.
It's really hurtful to the person recieving these racist remarks like me. I'm from south korea and there's this girl that keeps on calling me chinese or japanese and makes fun of me by saying japanese or chinese--or at least attmepting to say them--and pretend like i'm from that country and sometimes she carries it on by saying "DO YOU UN-DER-STAND?" in slow mo as if I wouldn't understnad it if she talked like a normal person. She keeps on calling me "chinese girl" and today she even said to her friends--who I do not know-- "Oh this is that little chinese girl that I was talking about" in a really rude tone.
I've experienced racism since I got to US which is in 4th grade and I'm still experiencing it everywhere I go and I'm in 9th grade right now. No one understands that being racist against a person is really hurtful and they won't know because they haven't experienced it. I've told her that she may think it's funny but it really isn't and i've said some things that I shouldn't have. But I really can't take this anymore because she's geting her friends to join in against this ridiculous thing against me and I'm really just about to cry and I don't know what to do.
I can't ignore her because then she goes onto say "Oh, that chinese girl is deaf" or something like that and it's just hard not to get upset over it. My friend knows this and she saw me almost cry several times within the last week. What do I do about this situation? I don't wanna do what she's doing to me and I don't want to sink down to her level. Suggestions?
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Hmm... I wouldn't take the casual approach to this and sue for everything she's got, but you should definately tell the school administration. I hear ya on what you said about them not understanding it cause they will never experience it.
What I've done is just to push it off, like not to show that it hurts or that it gets to me. Sometimes I would try to laugh, not to let them know they are funny, but to show them that they can't laugh at me. Try those things, it could work for you.
No offense to you or anything, but you could just slap her across the face with a score report showing that you got 500 pts higher than her on the SATs. Haha. I live in NY, which is diverse so I'm used to encountering all kinds of people, especially a wide range of Asian people (that basically dominate the SATs). When you have so many different people that there is no majority, then making fun of some ethnic backround or race is just pointless because by looking at how different everything is, you realize just how the same it is after all. Yeah I know, sounds kinda weird.
Don't follow up and treat her the way she treats you. Like you said, its sinking down to her level. I would talk to a teacher or counselor at school - they are pretty serious about an issue like that, so it is important to bring it to their attention. And don't worry about what she might say for getting yelled at. Let her know that what she is doing is racist and hurtful, that she can't go on doing so. If after that warning she continues or makes it worse, then find somebody to take care of it. Don't let it get to you, because think about it: a person as shallow as that just mirrors the low value their thoughts/comments say. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Eloquent. Nice. Uberly awesome advice. Thanks =]
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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