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Q: well heres my problem:
I Dont know when but soon im gonna meet up with my boyfriend that i havent seen for ages, weve been going out for 5 months, and we talked about sex im only young and a vigin but hes older and experianced and i trust him. I told him that i was ready do "do it" when we met up. Now thats true i do wanna but my worse fear is getting pregnant and im scared about it. i dont know what to do or what to tell him or if its worth the risk. It is somthing i trust him with, but bad things always seem to happen to me and i really dont want to get pregnant but i wanna do it. Please Help What Should I Do? And Wha Should i tell my boyfriend
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Worried about consequesnces and how to deal with them? Then you are not at all ready for sex. Thats final. I'm not going to lecture you about it, because I'm sure plent of other columnists could/will.
If you aren't willing to accept and deal with any consequences that could happen because of this, then are you really ready? Are you ready for an STD? What about pregnancy? Ever think of the emotional problems this could have on you? What about your future, because having sex is something you can't undo?
You are too young. I really really really really really really really really really really really don't know what it is with girls and 'older guys'. I keep hearing the same words, actually the same exact phrase from any female I've ever asked both young and old. Their answer: they're more mature. Hah! Yeah right. If they were really that much mature than the people your age, they wouldn't lead you into sex or anything like that, no matter how much you both 'loved each other'. Think about it.
I think you should call it off and be honest with him. He breaks up with you? Good. Why am I saying thats good? Because then you just got him for what he was interested in and wanted in the first place. If he wanted you for sex, then obviously that relationship isn't going anywhere past that. Think about it and sort your feelings out. You are obviously not ready. It's still your call and only my opinion, but worries about consequences and insecurities about dealing with them doesn't sound like readiness to me. Hope that helped and good luck.
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yeah thanks alot that really helped
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54879
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