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Should I Do It Or Not
well heres my problem:
I Dont know when but soon im gonna meet up with my boyfriend that i havent seen for ages, weve been going out for 5 months, and we talked about sex im only young and a vigin but hes older and experianced and i trust him. I told him that i was ready do "do it" when we met up. Now thats true i do wanna but my worse fear is getting pregnant and im scared about it. i dont know what to do or what to tell him or if its worth the risk. It is somthing i trust him with, but bad things always seem to happen to me and i really dont want to get pregnant but i wanna do it. Please Help What Should I Do? And Wha Should i tell my boyfriend
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Worried about consequesnces and how to deal with them? Then you are not at all ready for sex. Thats final. I'm not going to lecture you about it, because I'm sure plent of other columnists could/will.
If you aren't willing to accept and deal with any consequences that could happen because of this, then are you really ready? Are you ready for an STD? What about pregnancy? Ever think of the emotional problems this could have on you? What about your future, because having sex is something you can't undo?
You are too young. I really really really really really really really really really really really don't know what it is with girls and 'older guys'. I keep hearing the same words, actually the same exact phrase from any female I've ever asked both young and old. Their answer: they're more mature. Hah! Yeah right. If they were really that much mature than the people your age, they wouldn't lead you into sex or anything like that, no matter how much you both 'loved each other'. Think about it.
I think you should call it off and be honest with him. He breaks up with you? Good. Why am I saying thats good? Because then you just got him for what he was interested in and wanted in the first place. If he wanted you for sex, then obviously that relationship isn't going anywhere past that. Think about it and sort your feelings out. You are obviously not ready. It's still your call and only my opinion, but worries about consequences and insecurities about dealing with them doesn't sound like readiness to me. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Well, since you're worried about getting pregnant and everything, you don't sound 100% sure that you want to have sex, and you shouldn't until you're 100% sure mentally and psychically.
But if you really want to and feel you're ready, then go to Planned Parenthood and go on the pill and have your boyfriend use a condom, to be extra safe.
But I highly ask you to reconsider. I think your first time is something that should be waited for and shared with someone you know you're going to be with for a long time and that you really really love. I mean, once it's gone, you're not going to be able to get it back. And plus, things happen and even though you use a condom, you could still possibly get pregnant. And I doubt you and your boyfriend want to be teenage parents, do you?
I hope I helped. <3
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okay well heres the thing to me you dont sound a 100% sure you want to have sex, just remember your virginitiy is precious, one you loose it, its not gunna come back, theres no rush to have sex and if your boyfraing cares about your feelings heel understand, just tell him your not ready.
In future when you do decide to have sex (and your still extemely worried about getting pregnat) talk to your doctor he will tell you everything you need to know and will go through all the optins with you
hope i helped!
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first of all, to pprevent STDs and pregnancy, make sure that he uses a condom. That can prevent anything from happening. For added protection, you can also get birth control from your doctor.
I think that if you're having doubts about this, then you are not ready, hon. Sorry but you should be 100% sure of it before you do anything with your boyfriend. If he loves you, then he'd understand.
hope I helped
Mecha Becca
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I think the first thing you should consider is going to the doctor or planned parenthood and asking them to put you on the pill. It sounds like you may be below the legal age of consent but that should not make a difference to the help they give you. Also, tell your boyfriend he should use a condom to protect against STDs, HIV etc.
Now that the practicalities are out of the way, because you are questioning whether or not you should really go ahead with having sex, I honestly think you are still too young to cope with all the physical and emotional changes you will go through. He may be the big love of your life at the moment and he may be "the one", but you have years ahead of you in which to make sure. Ask him if he is prepared to wait a little longer whilst you are still unsure. Do you really want to sleep with every guy you go out with? If he pressurises you to sleep with him, your boyfriend may not love you as much as he says he does.
Your virginity is a precious thing that should not be given away lightly, once it has gone you cannot get it back.
Whatever you decide is right for you I wish you all the very best.
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