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Q: so my boyfriend was a acting like a really big jerk. He took me out of his profile and replaced it with another girl saying wow i love ___. he was lso being really really rude. I got so frsihtrated and hurt and mad that i dumped him. After i did it i was like what did i jsut do . We went out a few times before and he dumped me. After that he got really mad at me and started to say stuff like i hope you die and i hate you. We made up but still not going out. We were gonna stop probllay before summer casye we weould never say see each other. But i just feel like everytihng is filled up inside of me and i jsut need to let it all out. Im kidna getting really sad cuase he keeps say well u blew it i relaly did love you. But i just am really sad and i feel like i jsut need to start crying to make it feel better.

Hey there! This guy is certainly not worth your time. Although he keeps saying that you personally caused the problem and that he really loved you, he disrespects you, and takes advantage of the fact that you will forgive him, and so continues to say and do hurtful things. Also, a relationship between two persons is a team-effort, where each contributes positively and accepts whatever actions are responsible for affecting the relationship in a negative way. This boyfriend saying that you blew it is a clear example of how immature he is of having a relationship, because he can't take responsibility for himself. The next time he happens to win you over again by saying that, be smart and don't accept it, because it will just result in more pain, you know? Although it is hard to get over this at first, the best thing is to go out, spend some time with friends, have fun and meet new people. Doing what you like to do best will help you get your mind off things.