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Q: I asked a question earlier, on what the big deal girls had over celebrities and athletes with a six pack. I got great answers to that question, but then something else struck me when I read one of the answers I got:

- answered Monday June 12 2006, 10:51 pm:

***Oh and something you want to avoid: mentioning ANYTHING about a girl celebrity. Like "Man she is hot!" Because your girfriend will not be with you too much longer after you do that. ***

The part I put in stars struck me, but why though? It's very true, and a lot of my guy friends have told me stories about when their girlfriends got mad or upset with them for saying a celebrity was hot. I'm not asking for the rights to go around saying so, or that I want to either, but what I have noticed is that a lot of the girls do that too. I've heard about maybe every single celebrity out there from girls, even my girlfriend, but even when I mention one [which I've always tried not to] I get a bad reaction and they are offended, sometimes mad.

So should I say something to my girlfriend about that? I mean I see it as unfair, mostly because while I have tried to say something to her about the situation, I hear the: oh but I have you and thats what I really care about... but I try saying that too and its not acceptable. What do you think? Thanks.
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It's a double-standard and it's not fair.

I disagree with those who say you shouldn't give her a taste of her own medicine. I absolutely think you should. I think you should take something that she is lacking (big butt, small butt, whatever) and point out a celebrity who has that thing that she lacks, and parrot your girlfriend's exact words back to her, but switch the "six-pack" part with whatever the female celebrity has that she doesn't.

If she gets upset, then you can ask her what the difference is between you saying that about another female, a her saying the exact same thing (just a different body part) about another male. Hopefully, she will be smart enough to use her recent experience to put herself in your place and realize how hurtful she has been to you.

Some people might say that females are more sensitive about these things than males. I say that's bull. From my experience, females are more open about their feelings, males keep it to themselves. That's the difference. Same hurt, different reaction.

If she can't see that it's unfair for her to be able to comment on male celebrities but you aren't allowed to comment on female celebrities, then I worry about her. That's pretty basic logic and common sense there... If she can't see the logic in that, who knows what the next thing will be? If she is a potential wife for you, do you really want your life-mate and the mother of your children to be someone who has no sense of fairness and can't see things from someone else's point of view?

Now, on the other hand, if she isn't upset by your observations about other women and has no problem with it, then she isn't guilty of a double-standard. It means she just thinks it's ok to talk about these things. In that case, you can either shrug it off, join in and keep commenting on female celebrities, or tell her that even though it doesn't bother her, it does bother you, and hopefully she will understand.

Good Luck.

awesome advice, thanks a lot

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The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions that are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

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Most non-Catholic Christians believe the Holy Bible is the *exclusive* authority of Christianity... No other documents.

Much argument comes from this, as quite a few non-Catholic Christians (myself included) believe many of the man-made Catholic doctrines to be un-Christian and not corresponding with Biblical scripture. And obviously, Catholics disagree.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

Roman Catholic Doctrine vs. The Holy Bible

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