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For your first question... Just tell them. Gather them together, take a deep breath, and tell them. Yes, there will be drama. Yes, they will probably be upset at first. But these are the consequences you have to face. You have made the decision to become an adult before your time, now it's time to face the adult world... And in the adult world there is a lot of drama and upset and worry and sacrifice and responsibility. Welcome! Aren't you glad you hurried up to get here?

You chose this path. You knew the risks, you took them anyway because you thought you knew best. Sex is an adult activity. You decided you were adult enough to participate in this adult activity. Now you need to grow up and accept the consequences like an adult.

When you tell your parents, let them know you are ready to accept responsibility for your actions. That should go a long way in helping them with the news. Who knows, after the initial shock, they might even like the idea of having a grandchild.

As far as them "drowning" you in the "sex before marriage" stuff... Why do you think they are against sex before marriage? Could one of the reasons be because you might get pregnant!? It's too late now, so the whole "sex before marriage" speech isn't one that would do them any good to give you, since you obviously already made your own decision about that.

Don't add another bad decision on top of the one you already made. Adults tell you things for your own good, not to "spoil your fun" or be "mean". Adults have been through crap and learned things the hard way, they are trying to spare you the pain of making the same damn mistakes!

For your question #2, I have the benefit of being able to see other questions that you have asked, and I see that you have asked how to MAKE yourself have a miscarriage, in more than one question. (those questions were rightfully deleted, of course, since doing that could kill you, along with the baby.) But that puts this question in a whole different light and urgency. You MUST tell your parents. Do NOT try to make yourself have a miscarriage. If you don't care about the baby, you should at least care about yourself. You could die if you try to force a miscarriage.

If you and your family are not in a position to take care of your child, there are adoption agencies all over the place. There are 1,000's of couples who can't have children of their own, and would give anything to adopt a little baby.

As far as, are you a horrible person? I think you are a horribly confused person. You messed up. People mess up. All of us mess up. It's what we do after we mess up that decides what kind of person we really are. Do we try to ignore our mistakes? Cover up our mistakes by making bigger mistakes? Or face responsibility and deal with the choices we made?

Remember, there is a tiny life growing inside of you now. Your choices don't just impact yourself, but your baby's as well. I hope you will pull yourself together and behave in a mature, responsible manner. More than your own life depends on it.

k. that was like, the worst advice ive ever gotten. you really need to find better things to do.

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I'm DangerNerd's wife. We met on an internet personals site back in December, 1996. He flew across country to meet me for the first time in late February of 1997, and we were married a few weeks later. We've been together 9 years now. :-)

If you want to mail me, my email is DangerWench@gmail.com

Yes, I do sometimes copy and paste my own answers to answer different people's similar questions. I still personalize/edit them when necessary... but for instance, my advice about diet and exercise it going to be pretty much the same every time, and that's a very common subject for questions here... so there's no point in typing the same thing over and over and over again. ;-)

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Yes, hubby and I were both virgins on our wedding night, at the age of 26. Yes, we are both Christians, but we greatly dislike what "Christianity" (or "Churchianity") has come to represent in many people's minds these days... Hypocrisy, greed, pride... Things which the Bible says we are NOT supposed to do. We are supposed to be a good example, not a bad one. :-(

If you have a Christian acquaintance who is hitting you over the head with "Jesus will bring you peace and joy and happiness" tell them to listen to this:

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.mp3

(It's 9 megs, so it may take a bit to download)

If you can't download MP3's for some reason, you can download the zip file.

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.zip

If they are an actual preacher/pastor, this one is geared more towards them:

http://www.dangernerd.com/raycomfort.zip

Send them the link, or burn it to CD and give it to them, whatever it takes.

If they really listen to that, they will see how the Bible itself says the way they are annoying you is wrong. :-)

If you are a Christian, please listen to it, even if you aren't beating people over the head with Jesus. I promise you, it will give you a new perspective. It's totally awesome.

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I'm also fascinated by prophesy, and I do think we are living in an age where we are seeing many things come true that were prophesied 1,000's of years ago.

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There has been a lot of hubbub lately regarding my views on the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity... Mostly due to my not making myself clear. I did have a big long explanation here, but this time I will opt for the KISS method (Keep It Simple, Stupid). Yes, the following is the simplified version. ;-)

The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions that are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

A Catholic Christian believes in the Catholic doctrines, teachings, and traditions which include, but are *not exclusive to* the Holy Bible.

Most non-Catholic Christians believe the Holy Bible is the *exclusive* authority of Christianity... No other documents.

Much argument comes from this, as quite a few non-Catholic Christians (myself included) believe many of the man-made Catholic doctrines to be un-Christian and not corresponding with Biblical scripture. And obviously, Catholics disagree.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

Roman Catholic Doctrine vs. The Holy Bible

And a final note about that link... That e-book isn't written by Jack Chick, I have a lot of problems with Mr. Chick. Some of his tracts are great, and some of them are way "out there" if you know what I mean. I do not support Jack Chick. This e-book is written by Rick Jones, who was a Catholic for many years, not Chick.

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"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." (2Timothy 3:1 - 7)

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring..." (Luke 21:25)

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Yahweh is my God, Yeshua is my Savior.

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