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Q: I'm 16/female... Me and My boyfriend have been dating for 2 months, and everything is great and I like him alot but, when we talk on the phone he is always quiet and i'm like if you dont want to talk i will just let you go, and he's always no i'll talk and the continues sitting there quietly... How can I get him to talk or start a conversation that he will talk in, because i like him and all but i'd rather hear him talk than breathe... please help i'll rate high... Thanks in advance... Sorry so long
ALIX
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I had this problem, as in I was the one not talking as much. Try asking questions. On or off-topic questions. Tell him something about your day or life or anything that you would want to hear his opinion about. Get him involved, where you would actually put him in the position to require a responce. If after he responds he's still quiet, then keep it going.
Try to find something he is comfortable talking with and that you know about too. Like if he does crew [rowing, which is what I do], he might like to talk about that a lot, but then again you probably don't know much about it anyway - so while that would be a good idea sometimes, it wouldn't be good all the time. Catch something on tv? Something happen in the news recently? It's always a good idea to debate or just talk and share feelings about topics that are usually arguable; try to get his point of view on things that you might share or have differently. If it is different on a topic, persue it, and just keep asking questions. Hopefully after time he'll get used to it - talking on the phone with you that is. He's might be [I know I was] just not used to talking on the phone for more than five minutes or just to take/leave a message.
Tell a few jokes! Tell some stories! Ask about his day and tell him about yours. Try to get back out of him whatever you just told him: like if you told him about your last birthday, ask him about his. He'll come around soon. Also...have you mentioned that to him? Definately say something - 1. that will be something you could talk to him about from and hear from him; 2. since he is your boyfriend you should make an effort to keep things open between you too, both ways that is. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Thank you, i think that is the most helpful advice anyone could have given me... I'm going to try that tonight and see if it works...
♥ALIX
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Feel free to ask me any questions or for an alternate way of contacting me through my inbox.
I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.
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Gender: Male Location: New York Occupation: Student Age: 18 Member Since: August 10, 2005 Answers: 674 Last Update: July 10, 2009 Visitors: 54819
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