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Q: i had this convo with my bestfriend and i feel like if my bf knew i said those things with my bestfriend that he would be mad... do you think that i was wrong to talk to my bestfriend like that even if it was joking. (the whole fuck thing is an inside joke with him) btw my bestfriend is a guy.

me: loserface
him: fuck you
me: fuck you better/more! HA!
him: haha
him: got me
me: of course i did
him: fuck you harder/faster
me: ugh. fuck you longer/hotter? haha
him: sounds good.
me: you know it!
him: you dont know nothing about sex.
me: maybe not.
him: haha you dont
me: is that bad?!?!?!?
him: yes
him: duh
him: these days you have to have sex 40 times before your 11
me: haha well i just broke the damn rules
him: oh goodness.
him: to the death pit for you.
me: haha well atleast im a virgin!
me: oooooo!
him: at least im not.
me: well your a bad boy.
him: sex is fun.
me: i bet.
me: and the only reason i dont before i get married is because if i do then ill be completely attached and if i was to break up with the person i did that with or they break up with me it would be bad... like heartbreaking bad... and all and it would end up being the on and off thing because were so attached to each other.... its not for moral reasons... its for....logical reasons.
him: haha yeah
me: i just dont want to be that serious with a guy right now.;
him: yeah i understabd.
him: i forgot you're only 14
me: if i was ready to be that serious with someone it wouldnt bother me to have sex before marriage. but the thing is... if your ready to be that serious with them your pretty much ready to marry them! haha.... so yeah. im sorry im only 14 :( i know i dont act it.
him: yeah you dont
me: well that cant be a bad thing
him: its not.
me: gooood
me: your the best bestfriend ever.

so my questions are:
1)is that wrong?
Nope. You are sticking to your logic and beliefs which is a good thing; you don't let other people or the media influence you into thinking that sex is casual and not a serious thing; you are not afraid to stand up for who you are to your friends or other people. Kudos for you. It is true you are only 14 - why do something like that now when you might have to live another 50 years regretting it, you know? Hope that helped.

thanks. that doesnt answer the question but its ok! its a great answer. my question was "was it wrong to talk like that with another guy even if that guy is my bestfriend."

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