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well i am a 15 years old girl that is soft hearted and i loves helping other people out. i love giving out advice. i can relate to a lot of peoples problems because i have been through a lot in my life. i have done a lot of stupid things in my life that i regert but i cant change the past but i can try to change the future. i love to dance and enjoy life to the fullest. i love my best friends to death i would do anything for them..advice
15/f- Its really long but if you would take the time, I would really really appreciate your help.
Okay I have 2 best friends, shelby and christa. Well shelby recently got a boyfriend, and all of a sudden started acting very distant to me and christa. She never hung out with us anymore, and barely talked to us at school. She was trying to change herself to fit in with her bf's friends. Well Then she started telling people that me and christa abandoned her and that we were mad and jealous that she has a bf. We never said anything to her. So then we heard it from more people, so we asked her about it, if she said it. She denied it, and got mad at us and walked away. We let it go. Then my friend found a note from her to her bf that said " I dont know what is up with HER (meaning me) lately. If she doesnt knock it off quick, Im not gonna talk to her at all at homecoming because I dont want my night to be ruined by HER". So then I called her and asked her about it. Now Im not a mean person at all. Im too nice at times. Well I must have said "Now Im not trying to attack you or be mean, I just wanna talk" fifteen times, and she was like "Oh I know" She made up some lame excuse, and I was like whatever, so then we talked for about an hour like normal about our day and whatnot. The next morning she came up to Christa and I and hugged us to make sure we were okay. Well afterschool a friend came up and said "shelby said you called her and yelled and bitched her out for an hour and then she cried after you got off the phone" I was so angry, and I was tempted just to not talk to her anymore, but I gave it one more chance. I went up to her before lunch at her locker and asked her why she was saying that, and that she knew very well it wasnt true. I was being wayy too nice. She wouldnt look at me, she kept her eyes on her locker and was like "yeah... whatever.. sure" while I was talking, so then she was like "IM DONE okay? IM DONE WITH YOU" and just kept saying it, and I walked off, and then she went and told her bf that it was the otherway around. So then she comes up to me like 1 or 2 days later and says I was being a bitch the otherday, I dont know what was up. Blah. And I just said yeah I agree and walked away, then she wrote me a 3 page note and the first page was an apology finally. Im the forgive and forget type, but I dont really wanna forgive exactly, but she sits at our lunch table now, but everyone is like "why are you talking to her, she doesnt deserve your time"
Should I forgive her after all she did?
Am I right about this whole thing?
Should I talk to her still?
What should I do?
I would greatly appreciate any help anyone can give
omg i have been through this soo many times. just like you i am known to be too soft and nice to people and them seem to take advantage of that and take it for granted. i dont know about you but i am cathlic and sicne i believe in god i think you should 4give and forget and that if who ever your beign nice to is takin advantage of you then someone up above will get them back. plus pay back is a bithc. and she will feel so bad of what she did to you. what you got to do with ehr is change a lil how your. i am nto sayin completely just liek she has to gain your trust and that you be a little mean/ rough on her at frist. just to set her staright A(trust em if you dont do this she will keep repeatin what she has dont to do and think she will be able to get away with it) set her striaght and make sure she cant walk all over you. hope this helps you out.a dn if you need anyhting else feel free to drop it in my inbox.
*~Stephanie~*
(Rating: 5) Thanks for the great adivce!