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My boyfriend & I were on the phone a few nights ago & everything was fine. Then I started talking about a dream I had where we broke up & he seemed to be interested in what happened. I was worried he was going to break up with me so I said "As for breaking up in the near future..." & I realized a few days later that putting 2 and 2 together, it sounds like *I* wanted to break up with him. A little bit after that he called me back & started saying how he talked to his dad & he wanted to slow things down. Then by the end of the night we had no more relationship. I know this is hard to explain but the next day we talked & I said I still had feelings for him & I didn't want him to think I wanted to break up. He told me neither did he but he did it because it got scared & now it sounds like a good idea to him. Needless to say, I want to get back together. I can't believe this has ended, it really affected me & I want things back to normal. What should I do? I've already tried talking it out with him & I admited that I still like him but it feels like he's not gonna bounce back. He wants to be best friends but I'm not sure if I can be JUST his friend...

Give him time. Yes, I know this might sound like a horrible idea, but it will help in the 'long run'. If he's not ready for a commitment with you now, its no bother trying to ask him to go out with you, and "why did you break up with me?" over and over again.
After a while, when he's cooled off, you should talk to him. He might be ready to go out with you again by then.

Hope I Helped!
Jenna

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(Rating: 5) Thanks & yes you did help. I just wish waiting didn't hurt so much =/
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