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We have been together for 6 months and had a good sex life, but lately I have to initiate sex and often get rejected. My partner did make the comment that he has issues with my weight, which hurt me, but his loss of libido has been an issue that he has had before with other partners so I'm trying not to take it personally. This is very hard and find myself often getting very upset that he doesn't fancy me.
He has type 1 diabetes but was masturbating regularly before so he doesn't seem to be suffering from a sexual dysfunction, it also hurts that he masturbates, but doesn't want to have sex with me. We are very affectionate and loving couple in other ways and love each other very much. I'm finding it very hard to bolster my self esteem in this situation though, which is exacerbating the problem. I sometimes feel like running away then sorting out the problems. I hate that I'm feeling rejected and needy of him.
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A lot of times in a situation like this the men... well... They're very sensitive. It's possible something has happened to them in the past that makes them see sex as less than pleasurable. Ask them what they like and don't like about sex. Since men's connection to sex is much more physical (and women's far more emotional), if you can train them to focus on the pleasure in sex and get them to rationalize the problem, you're on the right track. It's not the weight. It's not anything to do with the way you look because if he wanted to go out with you in the first place he obviously finds you attractive, and if he's commited he obviously cares for you. A man in the mood could sleep with anything, so you have to realise when he doesn't, it's something wrong with him, not you. Be patient and talk to him honestly about it. Do something erotic together but make sure he knows there's no pressure.
♥ maria ♥
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thanks for that honest answer
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