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Q: why are christians so afraid to share there faith! im a christian and im not afraid at all. why cant the "christians" who wont die for God stop calling themselves christians!
I agree that there are many, many, many false Christians in the world.

There are also many different ways to help others see what true Christianity is... "Christian" has become a bad word in society. So many of those false Christians have gone around and done bad, judgmental, and un-Christian things in the name of Christianity, that many non-Christians think that's the way all Christians are, and think they are just a bunch of whacked-out hypocrites.

Because of this, just walking up to someone to tell them about Christ makes many, many people automatically defensive and put up strong mental barriers that you can't get past no matter what.

In today's society, it can be a good idea to just share your faith by example. Be a good Christian and help people you don't have to... Give your time and efforts to other people, and serve others like Christ did. Then when people ask you why you are being so nice and acting so unselfish and different from other people, you can tell them it's because this is the way Christ really wants Christians to be, loving everybody like we love ourselves. Then you can let them know that many, many people who call themselves Christians (including a BUNCH of big old famous preacher types) are not living the way Christ said to in the Bible, so they aren't really Christians.

Once people understand that their idea of Christians is based on lies, that gives you a great opportunity to explain how none of us is good enough to go to Heaven, no matter how good and kind we are, not even you... Because we have all broken at least one of God's Laws at some point, and only perfect people who have never sinned, ever, can go to Heaven. Which opens the way for you to tell them how Christ, the Son of God, became human for us so that he could live a perfect, sin-less life FOR us, and be a sacrifice FOR us, so that we might be forgiven our sins if we ask God in the name of Christ. Because, as you know, good works won't get anybody to Heaven, ONLY asking forgiveness in the name of Christ can.

One of the sad things is that non-Christians don't KNOW that all these false Christians aren't living by the Bible... Because non-Christians don't know the Bible, they assume that all these hypocrites are going by what the Bible says, and if so, the Bible must be hypocritical like them, so who needs that.

But as true Christians know, the Bible condemns the actions of false Christians. Unfortunately the world is DROWNING in false Christians. That's why people put up this mental wall when you say "Christian" and I can't really blame them. And that's why it can be best to give them an example of a good Christian before ever mentioning Christ.

Missionaries, for example, are over in many different countries risking their lives to help people. They aren't just over there going village to village and standing there preaching, singing a few songs, passing the plate, then moving on (like some modern-day preachers would)... They are over there digging wells, planting crops, helping the sick, helping the poor, building shelters, and in the meantime letting people know that the reason they are there doing these things is because of Christ. I'm not worthy to scrape the mud off of their shoes. That is true LOVE and sacrifice.

So I guess what I'm trying to say is that, just because a Christian isn't standing outside the Wal-Mart with a Bible in their hand asking people if they know Christ, doesn't mean they aren't working for Christ in other ways. Everybody has different gifts, and our Father works in mysterious ways. :-)

As for why the false Christians keep calling themselves Christians? The answer to that is very simple. It gives Christians a bad name and keeps others from accepting the free Gift of Forgiveness that any of us can ask for. It's a tool of the enemy to keep people from the Truth and it's doing its work very well. They don't even know they are a tool of the enemy. Which is extra sad. Because of that, they are very likely to go to Hell because they won't listen to anything you say. They already think they are saved. :-(

Have you ever seen movies where there is someone that somebody is trying to find, so someone sends out a bunch of look-alikes to confuse everybody as to who the real person is? That's what the enemy is doing with Christianity. The enemy loves confusion and lies.

This reminds me of a quote by Mahatma Gandhi that sums up what I feel is happening to so many "Christians" in the world:

"I like your Christ, I do not like your Christians. Your Christians are so unlike your Christ."

If you want to know more about how to reach people in the way that Christ reached people, you might take the example of the actor Kirk Cameron, who was saved by this very same teaching. It is fun, and it's less than 1 hour to listen to:

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.mp3

(It's 9 megs, so it may take a bit to download)

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.zip

If you can't download MP3's for some reason, you can download the zip file.

And for more info on other ways to reach people, try this link:

http://www.wayofthemaster.com/freeaudio.shtml

Thanks

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I'm DangerNerd's wife. We met on an internet personals site back in December, 1996. He flew across country to meet me for the first time in late February of 1997, and we were married a few weeks later. We've been together 9 years now. :-)

If you want to mail me, my email is DangerWench@gmail.com

Yes, I do sometimes copy and paste my own answers to answer different people's similar questions. I still personalize/edit them when necessary... but for instance, my advice about diet and exercise it going to be pretty much the same every time, and that's a very common subject for questions here... so there's no point in typing the same thing over and over and over again. ;-)

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Yes, hubby and I were both virgins on our wedding night, at the age of 26. Yes, we are both Christians, but we greatly dislike what "Christianity" (or "Churchianity") has come to represent in many people's minds these days... Hypocrisy, greed, pride... Things which the Bible says we are NOT supposed to do. We are supposed to be a good example, not a bad one. :-(

If you have a Christian acquaintance who is hitting you over the head with "Jesus will bring you peace and joy and happiness" tell them to listen to this:

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.mp3

(It's 9 megs, so it may take a bit to download)

If you can't download MP3's for some reason, you can download the zip file.

http://www.dangernerd.com/kirkcameron.zip

If they are an actual preacher/pastor, this one is geared more towards them:

http://www.dangernerd.com/raycomfort.zip

Send them the link, or burn it to CD and give it to them, whatever it takes.

If they really listen to that, they will see how the Bible itself says the way they are annoying you is wrong. :-)

If you are a Christian, please listen to it, even if you aren't beating people over the head with Jesus. I promise you, it will give you a new perspective. It's totally awesome.

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I'm also fascinated by prophesy, and I do think we are living in an age where we are seeing many things come true that were prophesied 1,000's of years ago.

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There has been a lot of hubbub lately regarding my views on the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity... Mostly due to my not making myself clear. I did have a big long explanation here, but this time I will opt for the KISS method (Keep It Simple, Stupid). Yes, the following is the simplified version. ;-)

The Catholic Church believes that the Bible is not the only authority. Their teachings include such documentation as Catechisms, and Papal Encyclicals (defined as "authoritative teaching instruments from the Vicar of Christ" (the Pope)) which have been written and added to throughout the years of the history of the Catholic Church.

Because of this, the Catholic Church has many teachings, beliefs, and traditions that are different from a Christian who believes the Holy Bible is the exclusive authority of Christianity.

A Catholic Christian believes in the Catholic doctrines, teachings, and traditions which include, but are *not exclusive to* the Holy Bible.

Most non-Catholic Christians believe the Holy Bible is the *exclusive* authority of Christianity... No other documents.

Much argument comes from this, as quite a few non-Catholic Christians (myself included) believe many of the man-made Catholic doctrines to be un-Christian and not corresponding with Biblical scripture. And obviously, Catholics disagree.

For more information about the differences between Catholicism and *exclusively* Bible-Based Christianity, see the following link:

Roman Catholic Doctrine vs. The Holy Bible

And a final note about that link... That e-book isn't written by Jack Chick, I have a lot of problems with Mr. Chick. Some of his tracts are great, and some of them are way "out there" if you know what I mean. I do not support Jack Chick. This e-book is written by Rick Jones, who was a Catholic for many years, not Chick.



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"This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good, Traitors, heady, highminded, lovers of pleasures more than lovers of God; Having a form of godliness, but denying the power thereof: from such turn away. For of this sort are they which creep into houses, and lead captive silly women laden with sins, led away with divers lusts, Ever learning, and never able to come to the knowledge of the truth." (2Timothy 3:1 - 7)

"And there shall be signs in the sun, and in the moon, and in the stars; and upon the earth distress of nations, with perplexity; the sea and the waves roaring..." (Luke 21:25)

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Yahweh is my God, Yeshua is my Savior.


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