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Q: Well okay, I've seen my boyfriend twice in my whole life. I met him like 2-3 weeks ago. And then we met up again at some fireworks like a week ago. He asked me out there. I didn't wanna say no though because like I was like hmm what the heck, Ill give him a chance. So the day after he asked me out. He went away for two weeks*he comes back this coming Sunday* and he calls like 3 times a day. He kinda gets annoying though and everyboy that knows him thinks he's annoying too. Also he is a jerk at times. Like he'll make fun of me and my music and stuff. But i noticed he has a really sweet side underneath it all. No one else knows about this sweet side of his. So when I tell them, they think im crazy. Another thing is that he cant even say "I love you!" When he says it, it just doesn't sound like he means it. Well.. i guess I love him, but it's just hard ya know? I have no clue what to do. So please help.

P.s. To add on to this all, he's friends with my x-bf and my x-bf wants us all to hang out but whenever me and my x are together we're all like close and kinda act like we're goin out. because I love him still *he broke up with me because I kinda cut because of him* and he apologized for it and said it was a mistake. But it's kinda late now.. i dont knwow.... we're all gonna hang out when my bf comes back. But im afraid its gonna be weird. Please help me.

Sorry this is sooo effin' longg.

A: Um, you only met him twice before he asked you out, and you agreed to it? You can't really except that much of a romantic relationship at first, because you really need to be friends before moving on. That way you know each other at least a little bit, etc.

If he's calling you too much, just be honest with him and tell him you'd rather he called just once. Tell him if he's annoying you, because that's the only way he'll know. He may be just teasing about your music--guys like to do that. People think my boyfriend is weird/goth/etc., but he's not. He's sweet, but they just don't know him.

As for not saying "I love you", why would you want him to feel forced to say that? Honestly, saying "I love you" without meaning it isn't good at all. Good guys don't say "I love you" unless they mean it. Don't feel offended--they only do that because they really don't want to hurt your feelings. And if you've only met him twice or so, I really don't think you can love him at this point in your relationship. What's your definition of real love?

And if you have feelings for your ex boyfriend, why are you going out with someone else? Does your ex boyfriend have a girlfriend? If not, maybe you should leave this new guy and go back to a guy you still have feelings for. Let's try not to make our lives confusing/dramatic, okie dokies?

If you feel weird being around your ex with your new boyfriend, that's perfectly normal. But if when you're around your ex you act like you're still going out, you probably should be going out.

You could ask me personally via a private question, email, or AIM and I'd be glad to help you out.

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(Rating: 5) Thanks, I think I know what to do now.
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