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How do you know if you've found "the one"? What makes them special and different from all the others? If it's a matter of being about to "tackle life together" then why don't young relationships last? I'm 14 and a female. Me and my boyfriend have been going out for only almost 6 months. But we've been through a lot together already. He helped me though the death of my sister, I helped him raise his grades, he helped me stop cutting, I helped him avoid getting kicked out of school... What more can life throw at us? Despite our age, I think we have more of a "love" than some of the people who get married. I'm not saying I'm thinking of marrying the guy, but I'm wondering what it takes to have "true love". What more is there to it? And if you do reach it, how will you know? Sometimes I think the word love is used to freely. (From "I love potato chips!" to "I love my mom.") So what is love and how do you know? Please reply! And no immature, stupid comments, either! I want real opinions and ideas.
Circumstances don't make true love. If you love each other, it's just because you do, not because you've helped each other through bad stuff. It's not the bad stuff that has made you fall in love - it's the way that your love has dealt with the bad stuff that has made you realise that you've fallen in love.
Love is...whatever you want it to be. Love is when you would do ANYTHING for someone. Love is when you don't want to fall asleep because reality is better than a dream. And there's a difference between loving and being in love. I know this is the most annoying answer ever, but when you are in love, you will know. You'll just...know. You won't be obsessed and forever thinking of them - that's infatuation, not love. The person you are in love with has the power to make you feel on top of the earth with one look when you're on the brink of committing suicide.
You're right, the word love is used to freely. It's OK to use it about potato chips because everyone knows that that's a different kind of love, and no-one is going to get hurt (except your waistline) through your love of potato chips. If you go on a diet, potato chips won't cry over it. Saying that you love potato chips isn't decieving anyone.
The only time when saying 'love' is wrong is when it's in between the words 'I' and 'you' and you don't mean it. THAT gets people hurt. THAT makes people cry. THAT decieves people. Do you see what I'm getting at? I agree with you - only say it if you mean it. Humans aren't potato chips, because we can feel.
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Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
(Rating: 5) I really liked what you said. It was a good way of looking at things. Thanks for taking the time to reply!