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My best friend and I got in fight like a month ago and it awas the stupidest fight ever I cant even remember what it was... well we kinda lost communication cause she just started ignoring me(and what sucks is we hang out with the same ppl so I will be standing next to her but we wont talk) and then like last week i was aim and we started apoligizing and got everything worked out... but at school its like we still arent friends cause i will be standing right next to her and we wont say one word... it feels really awkard... but i miss her so much and I dont know what to do I mean Ive told her how much I miss talking to her... I feel like Ive been replaced... I just want my best friend back and I dont know how to do it? I have cried so much just because of the fact that i cant talk to her and tell her everything anymore... it hurts me so much at school to be standing next to her and not talk... i cant really tell anyone how im feeling cause I just want to cry... I am trying to make my self realize that were just not bestfriends anymore but its way too hard... i need advice do I need to make myself realize were just not the same or do i gotta do something and get My BF back and if so HOW???
PLEASE HELP!!!
SIGNED:I WANT MY BF BACK!
Hiya,
Well, if you two have been ignoring each other for so long then you can't expect everything to go straight back to normal. Just remember that she probably feels exactly the same as you do about how awkward not talking to you is. One of you has to make the first move, so to speak, so why don't you be the bigger person and go up and say 'hi' first? You don't have to have in-depth, best friend-type conversations right now - 'how are you?' or 'how is your dog?' would do for now. If you once shared a really big interest - for example, dogs, or Johnny Depp (lol), be all, 'Aww, I saw the cutest dog in town yesterday...' or 'Have you seen the trailer for the new Johnny Depp movie?'
You CAN be best friends again...it'll just take a while to get the trust and communication going again. Try and take an interest in stuff that she does apart from you too (for example, if she goes to singing lessons but you don't, ask her if she's still doing them or how they're going). If she's a good friend she'll do the same with your interests. If she doesn't seem to be trying...well, it's just not worth it. You deserve better than a friend who gives up on a best friend after the first hurdle.
Good luck!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
(Rating: 5) that was really good advice thanks