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hey ok here is the thing i know its a lil confusin but plz try and help..last night 2 of my closest friends one as my best friend and one whom i know and im a lil close with who i saw twice, they both r in 8th then me so there still in the jr. high so i dont know what goes on between them since im in the high school now. well my friend comes on and tells me that my friend slapped him across the face and called him a jack@$$...but then again i dont blame her bc i would have done the same thing most likely...the thing is that i still want to be friends with him but i dont know if i want to, i dont want my BFF to get mad..though we have gotten into a fight over the summer me. vs. her n my X-BFF and anyways we became friends again and all n my X-BFF was ok with that...now i dont know if i could do this because i miss him and i do want to see him again..i just dk where i could go to hang out with him n still be friends bc im not allowed to go to the movies with guys nor can i go to their houses or have them over till im 16...we have gone to the mall twice but she was with us so i dont think the mall would be such a gr8 idea...he said well see how things work out between us and well work from there on where we can see each other or we would just have to wait till next school year to see each other again..which i dont know bc she'll also be in the school with us and i really know what to do...
i know she liked him and i liked him too @ the time but he was in a grade younger so i know i wouldnt be able to see him much till next year...so i just backed off think i may like him...i dk i how that would effect her..i asked them both if they would ever be friends again..she said she didnt know n he said he doubts it...im feel like im stuck in the middle of this and i dont want to take sides..since i was right there on-line in the chat when the whole fight broke out.

btw he is in a grade younger...yet he is 2 months older so he is now 15

Hiya,
Wow that is one confusing story!! Well...
Don't feel pressured into choosing between these guys. Your BFF is probably the easier option because you're allowed to see her practically whenever and you are better friends with her, but your guy friend deserves a chance too, and you're great for recognising that :)
They have to sort this out between themselves. It sounds like they've been having troubles for a while but they HAVE to be at least civil, for your sake.
Your BFF has no right whatsoever to get mad if you still wanna be friends with this guy. Sit down and talk to her about this - it's not fair for her falling out with him to affect your friendship with him. Reassure her that she still is your BFF, and just because you want to meet up with the guy friend every now and then, doesn't make you like her any less. She might have a problem with it but she's just gonna have to deal. Try and get her to really talk about this, and how she will feel if you continue to hang out with the guy, because otherwise she might bottle it all up and really grow to resent you or him. Tell her that you respect the fact that she doesn't like him, but you do, so you have a right to still talk to him, but reassure her that he isn't going to take her place (maybe say stuff about how she's much better at shopping or whatever :P).
Have a similar conversation with him, but he shouldn't be too much of a problem as guys don't tend to be jealous about other friends like girls do. Tell him that you still want to be friends, but your BFF (and parents restricting where you can meet him) are making that a little difficult right now.
They need to get together and talk this over - you could even be a mediator type person. You might even find that, even after everything that's gone on, they still want to be friends.
Most importantly, don't take sides...you might regret choosing the wrong side if one of them gets really bitter or starts hating you for choosing!
Liking this guy in that way could get really confusing right about now, and would DEFINATELY make your BFF mad if you went out with him. You were right to leave it until you would see him more. Maybe you can keep waiting until all this has blown over a bit?
And here are a couple of ideas of where you could meet him (tell your BFF that you are going to meet him [you don't have to tell her every single detail every single time, but make sure it doens't sound like you are hiding anything from her])-
*Pizza/McDonalds place
*Mall
*A park when it gets warmer
*His house
*After school clubs when he starts at your school?
*Online (webcam and microphone?)
*Ring him up sometimes/he can ring you
*Half way between your houses (wherever the nearest building is to their)
*A cafe
*Do you have like a high street as well as a mall? Like a street of shops? If you have that or a smaller mall where your BFF is less likely to be, go there.
I hope that helped!!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx

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