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ok this might start off sounding bad... but I dont mean it to at all! Ok well last year I didnt have very many friends... it was my frosh year and I was kinda-sorta friends with a lot of people i didnt really like, but i hung out with them because i had no one else ya know (it was my frosh year at a new HS). Ok well this year Ive really been able to have fun with the "popular" group of people. I like them a lot and we seem to get along better. Well we arent as tight as i wish we were and I was wondering if anyone had any suggestions. Also: people think i just want to become popular and thats why ive just started hanging out them. But really it isnt true. But sometimes i feel like i'm INTRUDING on the "popular" group because we havent been friends as long as all of them have. PLEASE DONT SAY "dont care about what they think" because I cant help it.. i try not to but it still bothers me!
*please help! I'll rate good!*
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Unfortunately, popular people don't tend to have as close a group of friends as everyone else...this is usually because they don't NEED their friends - they're so popular they can go and find someone else, but the unpopular people cling to each other because they need each other when there's no-one else (and often because the genuinely like each other :P). All you can really do is hang around and hope things get better - be yourself! You wouldn't be 'allowed' to hang around with these people if they didn't genuinely like you, so no worries there :)
Maybe you could suggest kind of...'day trips' out for all of you, like all of you go down to the town centre together and pick out ridiculous outfits and laugh at each other, or go to McDonald's together, or to the cinema? You could even book a hotel suite together and have a really extravagant sleepover type thing - it wouldn't be too expensive with a lot of you paying!! Find out something that you all enjoy and go for it!
Although be careful not to get one person on their own - although it may seem good to get to know them individually, asking one or two of them to go shopping or whatever with you will just make it seem to the others like you're trying to take them away from the group. Give it a few months until they all really trust you :)
And congrats on finding a bunch of friends you're happy with!
Blessed Be,
Rach xxx
(Rating: 5) thank u sooooo much!! You were the best help!